Positivity challenge
I was nominated for this challenge by @insideoutlet who posts fun and engaging content and is a founder of @asapers (a curation project to help budding Steemians).
You can read more about the rules for this challenge at the bottom of the post, but in short, the idea is to write about something positive.
Progress report
As I mentioned last time, I tend to be pretty positive, so this challenge will help me focus on the areas that I really need to work on. Last week, I challenged myself to stay positive when plans change.
How’d I do?
Well, I’d give myself an A overall. There were small changes to my plans and I think I made it through those fairly well. Then I had my “final exam” on Friday night. The power went out in our entire block of units! 😱 That was definitely not part of my plan for the evening, but Matt and I packed up the girls (they’d just fallen asleep but woke up once it started getting warm) and went to a coffee shop. It was in a pretty location.
Telling a friend about it afterwards, her reaction reminded me how unsettling the incident could’ve been. But thankfully Matt and I have had a little practice with that sort of thing. Living in the Middle East, our power went out regularly and we learned to roll with it. This week, that training came in handy!
☑️ Staying positive even when plans change
This week’s challenge
It really drags me down when I’m not feeling productive or I can’t see how I’m making a difference in the long-run.
Negative thoughts start running through my mind. And eventually I’m too discouraged to do anything.
For this week, even when I feel like I’m moving backwards instead of forward, I want to stay positive. I think that refocusing my thoughts will help.
Keeping perspective
For example, just the other day I was reminded how much the little things really do matter.
When the girls were teeny tiny, I only had a couple outfits that “fit” ... they still look like they’re swimming in them 😄
I loved dressing Squirt in the white outfit and Squish in the gray one.
Grandma recently sent some outfits for the girls and in the mix was a white onesie and a gray onesie! I snapped some pics then dug up the old pics I had. Seeing how little they were compared with how big they are now reminded me that we’ve come a long way in the last year.
Because the girls were preemies, there was a list of health concerns and milestones that we had to constantly look out for ... not to mention, keeping up with their daily needs. It often felt like a never-ending cycle: make bottles, change diapers, wash laundry, clean bottles, change diapers, wonder why there weren’t any clean bottles ... LOL
When the girls would get sick or there would be a setback, it was easy to feel like all the little things had been a waste and then question what I’d done wrong.
Of course, in retrospect, those little things were what mattered most!
Having the perfect plan and being productive often go hand and hand for me. As my plans fall through, it’s good to be reminded that what I think is “meaningful” may not actually have a long term impact. Instead, it may be (and probably is) the small, insignificant things that really make a difference.
###How to play this challenge...
Write a post about something you have to be positive about today. This could be anything from being thankful for your current situation, someone being nice to you, being thankful for your friends and family, or even being thankful for the opportunity you have been given here on Steemit ... Just keep it positive!
Do this for 7 days in a row if you get nominated. (Mine won’t be consecutive, but I’ll try to reach 7 posts.)
Mention three people who should do this on each day. (Since this has been going around for quite awhile, I won’t be nominating anyone but feel free to reference this post if it inspired you to write your own!)
Tag it with #7daypositivitychallenge and include these rules at the bottom of your post.
Include a picture of something positive - related to your story if possible.
Great post @helenoftroy. I love that you've learned to just go with the flow when things don't go as planned. Most people freak out without electricity. 'OMG' my life has come to an end LOL. Around here we play cards or board games by candlelight or go for a drive.
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I can't wait to play games by candlelight with the girls! I remember doing that when I was little and a storm would knock out the power.
Thanks for bringing back that memory @tryskele! And thanks for stopping by :D
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You're welcome @helenoftroy. Hopefully you'll build the same memories with them. I know those are some of my best memories.
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They are getting so big and of course are so darn cute!!!
Sometimes it's tough to keep the negative thoughts out of our heads, but I really do think that life is made up of all of those little things that seem insignificant, but really matter in the end. The smell of those babies heads, how they each have a cute little look, that you managed to shower and maybe even shave your legs all at the same time haha
Thanks for sharing, and remember, plans are meant to be changed and broken because real life sometimes gets in the way :)
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Shower AND shave?! You mean people actually do that? LOL
I think while Matt was away, I learned to count my blessings even more ... for one, all the little things he was missing out on - something new the girls learned, or an unexpected cuddle. And for another, all the little things I could take for granted before - like a good night's sleep or having someone to lean on when things got tough.
It was great to have that opportunity. It forced me to narrow down my life to three priorities at a point when life felt really overwhelming. I don't think I had the time to notice all those little things.
And thank you for the encouranging reminder! ❤ There have been so many times in my life when plans helped me put one foot in front of the other when that was all I could do ... having them broken reminds me that there's strength there now without them - like finding that your bones are healed when the cast is removed. It's freeing ... and terrifying ... 😂
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I think you are right @helenoftroy the little things you do everyday do make a BIG difference!
P.S. Whenever I want to focus my mind on something helpful, I repeat mantras and affirmations!
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Hello @helenoftroy 😉 your girls are so cute and I always wondering how fast they're growing though we can calculate and measure their growth😊 stay positive is the best thing that you can do to enjoy the moment with them. Such a lovely pictures, you'll have to be positive when they starts messing up with the house later..LOL, no clean bottles will be no clean space 😂 wish you all the best.
Thanks to @asapers and @insideoutlet so I can enjoy your post and your little girls cute pics.
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Hi @cicisaja! 😊 Having a messy house will definitely require lots of positivity! When I watch them drop food on the freshly-mopped floor it makes me wonder if I'm really moving forward. 🤔
Thanks for taking time to read and comment!!
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I knew how the feeling though I haven't had any children, yet. Growing up with 6 little brother and sisters and take care of the last 2 was really amazing☺ I don't mind cleaning the house more often as long as I can hear they cute voices calling my name, it was a beautiful memories that I cherish until now, even after they got married and made another 4 little boys and girls😊 time flies... and we will miss the moment they get us in trouble with the household chores 😂
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I love the way you look at things! This was a great positivity post!
Thx
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Thanks @public-eye! 😃
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Congratulations @helenoftroy, your post has been selected by the @asapers for a resteem and a feature in our brand new curation post. Issue 96
What does this mean for you? Well first an upvote from some members of the team, we are no @curie or @ocd but who is going to be unhappy with some extra upvotes. Also each post featured in the article will receive a 10% share of the SBD generated from the curation post.
Keep up the great work and please consider supporting the @asapers with an upvote and/or a resteem on the post you feature in. Please wait seven to ten days for payout.
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Thanks so much @asapers! :D
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