BlogHide Resteemsmeholstein (50)in productivity • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.What Does It Mean To Be Productive?Productivity is a word we all use a lot, but don’t have clear definition around. We know we all want to be more ‘productive.’ There are productivity apps and productivity tools. But do we mean…meholstein (50)in feminism • 6 years agoWearing Revealing Clothing Isn’t ‘Asserting Your Freedom.' You’re Just Playing Into Misogynist’s Hands.I’m a feminist who is against crop-tops and revealing clothing (and I’m writing this as someone who loves crop tops). Far from being some kind of cranky old woman with antiquated values, I think…meholstein (50)in sexuality • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.Are Humans ‘Naturally’ Monogamous? And Does It Matter?The last four books I’ve read have been about evolutionary biology and evolutionary sociobiology. Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari The Selfish Gene by Richard…meholstein (50)in life • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.Teenagers Are Not Too Young for Big DecisionsPeople tell children their experiences aren’t legitimate all the time. “You’ll understand when you’re older.” "Puppy love is real to the puppy.” “Just wait - one day you’ll grow up and…meholstein (50)in life • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.How To Get Closure In 3 StepsClosure is always something I’ve struggled with. After a series of very abrupt abandonments by friends in my formative years, closure is something I’ve always desperately wanted yet felt was…meholstein (50)in mental-health • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.Don’t Be A Big Baby: The Story of How I Became a Coward, and How I RecoveredWhen we’re children, around the age of middle school, we start to learn the kinds of people we are in comparison to other people. *Jake is tough, Kevin is nerdy, Ashley is a jock, etc. * What I…meholstein (50)in life • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.Learning The Wrong Lesson: Life Teaches Us Lessons, But Sometimes We Learn The Wrong OneFor many years, my mother had a fluffy white cat that might reasonably have been called obstinate. It’s not that she was incapable of learning. Far from it. She was a very bright cat; she just…meholstein (50)in life • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.My Rule Of Thumb for Determining Social PositionsI have a rule of thumb I use to determine the enlightened side of many different debates. This rule of thumb is simple. I just ask myself: Which side is making judgments? Then I pick the side of…meholstein (50)in writing • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.I Hate When People Read My WritingWhen people tell me in real life, “I need to read your article,” I get a sick feeling in my stomach. It’s one thing for strangers to read my writing. Internet strangers read my writing, clap, and…meholstein (50)in sex • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.America is Monogamous By Default. But Should We Be?Lately I've been very suspicious of our cultural expectation of monogamy. Monogamy itself I have no problem with. I think monogamous commitments are beautiful. The idea that two people are so…meholstein (50)in life • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.Are Humans the Only Animals That Feel Suicidal?Mental health is a hot topic right now in our culture. Medium in particular has been featuring a lot of articles having to do with mental health. (Shameless plug: including my own! ) While…meholstein (50)in relationships • 6 years agosteemCreated with Sketch.Why Women Make False Rape AccusationsI’ve been spending a lot of time talking to men about gender relations lately. I’ve talked to older working men, who are afraid to interact with their female coworkers and accidentally say something…meholstein (50)in humor • 7 years agoThe Stages of Life According to FurnitureStage 1: Childhood Furniture: Your Parents Own the Furniture The earliest stage of life is pretty explanatory. While we are children, we don’t own our furniture. We live with adults, probably…meholstein (50)in sex • 7 years agoThe Two Ways Men Express Lust: One is Good and Healthy; the Other is a Toxic NightmareFeminism has focused our attention on female sexuality. Feminism is working even today to show everyone that female sexuality is good and has intrinsic value apart from male desire. In other words…meholstein (50)in writing • 7 years agoI’m Too Afraid To Write Something GenuineEvery time I listen to Eminem’s more controversial work (Kim, Same Song and Dance, Medicine Ball), I’m reminded of a significant weakness in my writing. My writing isn’t genuine. I’m a…meholstein (50)in love • 7 years agoGetting Married Is Not The PointEveryone wants to find love. In western society, that love usually takes the form of monogamous love marriages. In other words, finding one person you are more in love with than anyone else, and…meholstein (50)in relationships • 7 years agoHow To Talk To Someone With Abandonment IssuesNo matter how many times you tell them you’ll be there for them, they don’t believe you. No matter how many times you tell them you love them, it’s never enough. We’ve all met someone with…meholstein (50)in life • 7 years agoWe Are All Making Mistakes, All The Time. Even Right Now.One of the toughest things about life is accepting you’re not right all the time. We have an easy time looking back on the past and admitting we’re wrong. We’re able to look weeks, months and…meholstein (50)in health • 7 years agoThe Truth About Testosterone and Estrogen: A Guide To Our Most Misunderstood HormonesChances are, if you’re reading this, you’re worried about your hormone levels. You’re probably a man who wants to make sure he’s got all the testosterone he can. Or maybe you’re a woman with a…meholstein (50)in mental • 7 years agoHow To Tell Sadness and Depression ApartDepression is not extreme sadness. It is something else entirely. When you are going through a period of sadness or grief in your life, you feel sadness or grief. When you are depressed, you feel…
