Are you planning to get married? You better consult with a marriage counselor first!

Excerpt: If we want to know why people divorce, often so quickly after they met and got married, we need to examine the reasons that got them to walk the aisle in the first place. The world now is different than it was a generation or two ago, when people were in a survival mode and simply wanted to meet someone to fill some gaps. Divorce was, for most people, not an option and therefore, our parents and grandparent's generations remained married till they died. There is nothing noble in remaining in a situation that causes pain or dissatisfaction. There is nothing noble in sacrificing yourself.

If you are about to get married, I strongly advise you to receive some observation from a marriage counselor, a professional. They will be able to see clearly your issues, enlighten you, and make you more aware of the near future that awaits you. The purpose is to make your bond stronger, and the younger you are in life-experiences, the better their observations will be for you.

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Hi,

I have recently divorced after being married for less than a year. I am looking for a new spouse (got anyone for me?), but I also want to know why has it become so popular in recent years to divorce so shortly after the wedding?

Zoei

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Zoei,

Your observation is right. As the changes on earth go faster each day and humans discover more of their true essence they realize that their current relationships no longer satisfy them and are not appropriate for who they are becoming.

A large percentage of the population get divorced nowadays, much more than in the past (your parents' generation for example), because they have chosen to get married for the wrong reasons ('wrong' - in relation to their higher good). For example, if you are poor and have suffered from lack of money all your life, and you meet a wealthy guy who shows interest in you and perhaps loves you, part of you will want to marry him to answer your need for financial support and a life of luxury.

In general, it could be said that if you marry someone to fulfill a need, to complete something that is missing within you, then you had better reconsider because such a reason is not appropriate anymore.

Humanity is moving towards a way of living in which each individual will fulfill all of his/her own needs. This means that each person will be able to create for themselves all they need – material things and artificial needs alike. Therefore, when people realize that they can create for themselves abundance, self-worth, inner strength, appreciation and love, they start searching for other reasons to stay with their spouse. Most often they simply don't find the reasons and choose to divorce.

I repeatedly recommend for people to think carefully before choosing to get married; to consider who they are now and who they choose to be in the future; to feel their spouse and the interactions with them. Reading articles and learning about True Love, enlightenment, sovereignty, will help to expand one's awareness and understanding so that choices will be more appropriate.

There is nothing wrong with getting into a relationship when you are still not complete, still having gaps and unattended issues within you. Often, living with each other, next to a kindred spirit, is a great help for one's progress. The trick is to be aware of this. Because when the obstacles will come - and they will - you will know their origin. You will be wise to say, "Ah, I know why I am jealous of my partner, it's because I still feel insecurity within myself". And when you have that insight, you do not blame your partner but heal that wound within you. And therefore, both of you can cross that hurdle with success. other people, unaware, would simply choose to divorce.

For you, Zoei, I'd recommend observing your life and your inner state before you jump into another relationship. If you truly seek true love then you must heal the wounds that your divorce has caused and prepare the ground for new choices to be made. Having said that, not choosing is also kind of a choice, of course, and the universe will reflect, as always, that "non-choice" as well by planting you where you are right now until you choose to choose.

Good luck!