The Master's wisdom # 9 – Be alone, with yourself only, until love comes.

in advice •  7 years ago  (edited)

Those who have once known love would always live in regret in front of a present that lacks it, no matter how rich or happy they are.


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What is the number one goal for most of the people? To feel love.
Those who have felt this feeling, at least once in their life and usually in childhood for sure, know that there is nothing better than to be immersed in the company of a loved one.

Love gives us the feeling that we are invincible, that we can do anything and all options are open to us. Therefore, when we lack this feeling life becomes meaningless. We do the best we can to achieve love. No wonder dating websites and apps are most popular.

How sad it is for me to see people chasing love, but to no avail. They are falling time and again, lacking to realize they look in the wrong places. Love will come naturally if they only allowed it, with no struggle, with trust and confidence.

Blessed is the human who can live with himself/herself for years, without the company of another one, patiently waiting for the perfect timing, and rejoicing once love knocks on their door.

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How sad it is for me to see people chasing love, but to no avail.

It’s sad to say but I’m just realizing that, it’s my responsibility to make myself happy. For years I’ve been in different relationship looking for happiness.
I will often find myself getting in huge arguments with my partner, telling her that she don’t know how to make me happy. Not realizing it wasn’t her responsibility. Now”IM” TRYING TO LEARN HOW TO MAKE “ME”…HAPPY!

We cannot let our happiness depend on others. We can love them, support them and get supported in return. But ultimately our happiness depends upon ourselves, in a relationship or not!

Be alone, with yourself only, until love comes.

I have so often seen people who are terrified of being alone. They’d rather stay in a soul sucking bad relationship than face being alone. As my friend said, it’s a distraction from existential despair. It’s feels so good when I see someone take the risk to make the changes and then discover how wonderful it can be to find happiness in solitude (which does not mean lonely). I am on the same path after realizing the truth. I have a girlfriend but after all the past experiences it's just different. If I am with her I am totally with her and If I am alone I am in solitude, enjoying my own company.

I Love this ♥️

And I love the way you are simplifying the complicated idea of our existence and presenting in front of us. You are a very wise man who communicates these ideas so well and keep them straightforward. Keep them coming!

Yes ... Thats what i have been saying from the start...

make peace with solitude

Fcuk world n lit a cigar

For me with my own life it will not work to see any help from others, and I myself feel uncomfortable and feel lonely, and it will not be possible that love can come by itself, still many say that love can come by itself.

And many judgments of the people we ask if it is more comfortable and if the matter of love that can come by itself, still there is a certain time we must need a friend and not mungkit us always with self.

There is no contradiction.
You can be with many loving people, have wonderful relstiondhips, but ultimately, the greatest love you will know, will come only after you will have found love from within.
Thanks for your honesty, my dear friend 👍

I was a very lonely child and it's funny but the first word that comes to my head is "starved". I felt starved of affection, starved of love and I felt that it wasn't OK to ask forit. Maybe there was a sense that if I deserved it, it would be there. There must be something I'd done which meant I didn't deserve it.

You don't realize yet how lucky you are. That hunger for affection brought you here.

Thanks man.

The person I used to love the most, the one I considered to be my whole world, hurt me so much. I'm not even sure anymore how love supposed to feel, how it needs to be.
I'm looking forward to get this feeling, but only this time I want it to be right.

Been there, than that.
You are in the perfect place 👍😊

The worst hit among these people are those who were spoilt with love by their mother. Spoilt I would say. When mum is no more they felt thats their end. Everybody has need for love but permanent love is the one that begins from within you. "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thy self, Yeshua said.

Here's something for you to contemplate, father -
So many people love their relatives, neighbors, others, much more than they love themselves. Could it be that Yeshua was actually saying to people - "love yourself at least as you love your neighbor"?

I think you are saying the opposite. Yeshua said "love your neighbor as you love yourself."

What flows out of you is in proportion to what is in you.

Indeed.
Offering a more contemporary verse. :-)

Love is the spirit of life. Love is beauty, someone who is in love everything becomes beautiful. love to the all-powerful, love of fellow beings, love to the universe, and love to oneself.

Love will come to you on perfect day - may be today, tomorrow, next year or even after a decade.
Blessed are those who patiently wait and rejoice on the right timings.
Such a wonderful audio @nomad-magus. Keep sharing more❤

Thanks for the feedback 👍

Lives of life can not be just love. I have been learning from my childhood that life should be seen, to achieve success. But most people have lost their time after the love of the child since the very beginning. I have seen many of my friends since childhood that they are ruining their lives. If the goals of my life remain constant, I can reach my goal. Maybe it's waiting for him, but I'll get it. When the time of love comes, then it is like this. The love that she loves, she loves

.. May I ask, for curiosity's sake, what is your goal in life, if you have any? 🤔

hahaha ofcourse. my goal is achievment in my life & love to my own life.

I think, love will make sacrifices, life spirits, the spirit to face adversity.
but how many lovers forget the things that will happen in the future even though he knows if someday they will probably lose everything they've ever felt while having a sweet relationship.
thanks @nomad-magus for this advice

You are right but I don't think that love is confined to only marriage or the life partner. What I learn in my life is, Do good have good and I say do love and have love. Anything in your life on which you base, might be your house, your family or your friends and for now, adding steemit community, all these are loves. The one about you are talking, is for sure important but love is not confined
correct me if I am wrong
and thanks for letting me explanation of my thoughts

all would want to pursue love, but many people who must be hurt because of love, love can bring happiness and love can also bring injury and regret for life, sometimes love is not as expected

If you want to love someone, then I will love myself. There are many happiness in loneliness. There is nothing better than rejoicing in my life. When I am with my boyfriend, I do not have any of my own. And when I'm alone, I get back to myself. Life is hidden in time and loneliness, to find what it is.

Thanks for this advice. 👍

Wait till the perfect one comes, he/she will change your life, love really changes the life and for this people try number of dating sites and much more but I think the perfect mates are choosen by the God before their birth.

you talk about love was just awesome. I am personally and looking forward to love. It is true that waiting moments for love can give life to peace. All people want love. Of course it is love people who love to love I think life without love is a lot more meaningless. We are all passersby of love, but how many people can be waiting?
I have saved my love for my loved ones, waiting for the wait. I do not know when he or she will come or not.

but i hope he will be comes for me & give me his heart & tell me, my heart only for you.

A lots of thank you @nomad-magus (David). you make my day. now i feel better.

Wait till it comes, punches and knocks you down... We have been talking a lot over infatuations recently on your blogs... Anyways hope the love comes in the best shape and not in the modified form.

...Therefore, when we lack this feeling life becomes meaningless.

You are completely right. I have never used any dating sites, however with only few exceptions I don’t believe it actually works. I still don’t believe the way I met my wife 20 years ago. There were so many circumstances that my only explanation is it was meant to be. And “Yes” without live there is no meaning, motivation in live.

True love comes from GOD. He is the only one that can bridge the gap, the inadequacy and pain that we feel as humans in our endless search for temporary highs.

I enjoyed your article and am sure almost everyone can relate to the pain you so vividly describe.

neither i am chased nor i chase anyone now
i enjoy my own company .let's see what happens when love knocks the door

You learn to stop loving. When our eyes start to focus on the other person’s negative points, everything she does that’s hateful, everything she doesn’t do that you would like her to do, the result is the loss of love.

But love is also something that can you learn, doing the opposite. The problem is that people think that they don’t have control over what they feel. They think that if they feel hate, it’s not their fault, and there’s nothing they can do about it. And if they feel love, it’s also something natural, divine, magical, involuntary; a beautiful sentiment they have no power over.

Indeed.
There are emotions, like hate or anger, which are the product of the mind, on which we do have control; and there are feelings, like love, the natural flow of the universe. Them we just allow.

person can feel anger and hate as a reaction to irritation or the rage caused by the indignation of feeling his rights violated. We have all felt indignant at some point because something unfair has happened to us

Injustice is a state of mind, a thought form coming from the mind.

Absolutely! Let it be natural.. Let it come to us.. Let us be patient.... And that love attained would never ever dissipate.. Great thought..

Actually when love comes in life, nothing in the world feels good except for the beloved, taken from your own life. No matter how friendly the friend is, the person gets angry and gets out of the other ear. Many times we do not even listen to my parents, as I am But when the relation breaks when friends and family feel more about the break, always want to spend time with them. I did not listen to my family because of the hardships in myself. It is a matter of concern to my family that it is not as bad as we do, but we will forgive us even if we do not go away. And I'm good at this opportunity. Now my question is, why a boyfriend or a lover can not forgive us for a little mistake, why can not it be done like a family? I answer that, my family is the only place who loves us in a nutshell. I would say, When we love it, does the interest work? Think of the answer. So say one thing, my parents always yearn for our good, so think before starting a new relation, think about my dad. What to do and what to do.

Some people are not able to supercede their ego. Don't waste your time in thoughts and analyzing. Forgive yourself and move on.

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I agree with you. We do not know where our current situation is taking place today. We are not all that we want. Again, I do not want it again. You're really a good man. You can understand the human feelings. So you can write them very beautifully with their feelings. I respect you from the heart.

Thank you for the Feedback ☺️👍

thanks to you for your article.

love is love tampa expect reward but love can change one's behavior but love is grace from god.

loving someone is not easy, except the love of monkeys in feel while still in infancy. I love your articles ..

Like I've waited long enough already... Maybe I should get out there more. :P Haha.

Huff in a little while
If 🤔
I got many things,
And now a lot of huffs
To lose ..
Because then love was full,
And now love gets void!
Unbelievable but true!

Great post, i also felt same in school times and college times now i am 25 years old but still alone but it's not hurting me because i enjoy my company but i am waiting for my partner and i believe that one day my partner will come like an angel because if you think then you can get. Thanks for sharing and wishing you an great day. Stay blessed. 🙂

Sometimes love comes in the time suddenly without our plan

John Lenon: "life happens to you while you are busy doing other things"

Thanks

I was very excited to hear your words. You said the words are absolutely true. I know how I am going away from my life. My time with my husband is not going well, love is growing. Hope your words will be useful in my life. I will try. Thank you very much for promoting beautiful things.

Exactly! Self-Love is not Self-ish.
"I love you as much as I love myself" instead of "I love myself as much as I love you", realizing that we can only love others to the extend we love ourselves, and not vice versa.

And only by being Al-one, we realize that All-one. Only with this epiphany we can truly become One with our loved one! ;)

We all know that there are many obstacles in our lives. But we do not want to believe it. If I can not love myself, then I can not love anyone. Your words are logical and constructive. It's great to learn to love life. Not everyone can do it. Patience is waiting for everyone to have patience.

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Absolutely right . We are all alone, born alone, die alone and be alone with yourself, until loves come...@nomad-magus

True, when love comes its the most beautifil feeling in the world, and no matter how far the ones are we will always find them near us , in our hearts

Nice To See Your Post. Thanks For Your Share :)

True and I do really believe in saying that “True Love Waits”. No pressure but in time.

More proximity creates distances. It is better to stay far away from loved ones. The relationship is not stable, variable.
The relationship that develops very quickly does not take long to reduce the temperature.
Whatever the memory happiness or sorrow, always the trouble is always the pain. Sadness and pain do not have to be spread. There is joy to spread Forgotten difficult to forget But remembering happiness is a little more difficult than it is.
It's not good to be defeated by Mohas. But very few people are unbeatable in the war.
Beautiful dreams also cause regret The reality is not as sweet but as a dream. It is not true that dreams will be fulfilled. To dream and to work for that - it's true.
Before pledging, we should think so little. It is better to cry than to say a lie than a lie.
There is nothing sacred like water. With the touch of this water all the dirt-money was cut.

Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out.Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.

interesting post I can take a good learning @nomad-magus

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