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Sex before marriage is usually frowned at by the society. However this 21st century new Western ideologies are encouraging the act. Is it good or bad for the health of a couple? Sexual health Thursday will reveal!
Young people have hyperactive hormones which comes with puberty and adolescence. Once a child becomes a teenager, he or she is likely going to start seeing some changes in their body.
Male and female secondary sexual characteristics may begin to appear. For males, the voice deepens, chest becomes broader, muscles begin developing even their sex organs may become elongated.
Females notice increasing breast size, increasing hips or curves, emotional development leading to attraction to the opposite sex and even onset of menstrual cycle. For both, growth spurt, appearance of pubic hairs may signal a new beginning into adulthood.
These changes may come with some pyschoemotional effects as well. The increased need to please the opposite sex and inquisitiveness about sex and sexuality may ensue. The onus is thus on the parents and teachers to educate them on sex before they learn something else from their peers.
However, most parents link the issues of sex with religion. In essence, this leads to lesser emotional engagement with the youth. When you tend to judge a child, you naturally lose the child's trust. Hence pushing them towards more engagement with peer pressure and thus succumbing.
Sex is not bad and should never be painted as such. Every parent should take the time out to explain to a child especially an adolescent about the intricacies of sex and most importantly about the need to reach a certain level of emotional maturity before going into such.
The girls may get their hearts broken, risk unwanted teenage pregnancies and even sexually transmitted infections if are is not taken. This is why we must put the word out there.
Boys too are not totally exonorated. They too get sexually abused from time to time. But because the society never expects boys to cry, they go unreported.
A good parenting and upbringing is not only about punishment. The use of love, tender care and trust have proven to be much more effective tools.
Many of the scars of childhood extend into adult life.
The adult may reach an age to get married and start getting haunted by his/her "conscience" which is actually parental words saved in the memory for a prolonged period of time.
It should be a choice eventually! Whether to taste the forbidden fruit or let it be till you tie the knot is going to be decided by both partners.
What do you think about this topic?
Yah Or Nay?
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I believe there can never be a definite answer to this topic.
If we are to go religious, sex was ordained by God, yes, and should be had only within the confines of marriage. However, there are many marriages that have hit the rocks because the couples found out too late they were sexually incompatible.
Sex is a vital part of marriage and while I'm not advocating promiscuity, I believe it should exist within a dating relationship.
Again, sex within a dating relationship should be engaged in only if you want to and feel comfortable to get intimate with your partner that way. You should never put up or give in to pressure or intimidation to have sex from your partner. Do it only because you want to and if the pressure becomes too much, please take a walk.
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Hey @Paigegirl,
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You should get married first before having that. Because, sex is made by God to be enjoyed by married couples.
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Good contribution.. Thanks man
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From me it's a Nay because Sex is a blessing from God and it should not be abused because of what the world has turned to today.It is never for young single persons....Thanks for this topic.
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Sex for me is subjective...it could be hurtful or pleasurable depending on a person perspectives. What a child needs is sex education... Every parents should embrace this and not scold it because of religious beliefs and antics....Sex before Marriage is advantageous . It gives both future partners an advantage of getting to know themselves . ..
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Thanks @air-clinic for the topic of today. It's really an interesting one I must admit. In my own personal opinion, I think sex before marriage is not ideal and should be frowned at by the couple during their dating and courtship period..
Many believe that it's mandatory to test how good your spouse is on bed do as to determine if to continue with the relationship before its too late and this is common among the male spouse. But Biblically and commonsensically, it's not ideal.. It's not rational and should be avoided. Thanks.. This is my little contributions...
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As for me I think it is sacred and it should be meant for married couples only. My reason for saying this is because most people who go into a relationship, go in because of sex. Most times after the sex in the relationship, most partners don't get to marry each other.
Now they have several records of sleeping around with several ex boyfriends or girlfriends. Some people even do what they call friends with benefit. Sex involves the use of private organs or parts. So it should be kept private for your husband or wife and not public for who you might be having feelings for at the moment. Thanks for this topic @air-clinic
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@air-clinic, your points elucidated in the post are succinct. My stand on Sex before marriage is a NO.
Sex before marriage is ideal. It honours God. It builds trust and Prevents guilt, anxiety, undue comparison.
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Sex before marriage means eating the forbidden apple and the consequences could be best told by Adam amd Eve. Though it is difficult, but it is healthy spiritually and physically...
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Sex before marriage means eating the forbidden apple and the consequences could be best told by Adam amd Eve. Though it is difficult, but it is healthy spiritually and physically...
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@air-clinic Sex before marriage is not Ideal
But my generation has so made it a measurement of love and committment that it has almost lost its uniqueness.
The wait makes it more enjoyable and worthwhile.
Its just the thrill of the chase and less drama.
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