A Death and a disaster

In 2014 when people raised $115 million in two months doing ALS ice bucket challenge only thing i raised was probably watch list of the ice bucket challenge videos.
For people like us, the word "ALS" meant nothing besides "ice bucket challenge"-the thing that all the celebs are doing. Few who had a little more curiosity than us might have ended up linking it to the disease that Stephen Hawking had.
Knowing about the greater purpose behind those trendy challenges has never been our forte.
Specially because by the time these challenges chatches up in a third world country like ours only thing that remains of the challenge is that 'it's a trend.'
And why wouldn't it be? Who would think about a disease that has no source of casuse, specific Diagnostic method,Treatment or
Medication. Only thing this has is a prognosis,which has no real credential.
Why would we think or know about a disease that is basically imaginary until out of nowhere it breaks your every last nervous system one by one. Why would we think, talk or know about a disease that has no glory attached to it like cancer - highly dramatic. Why would we know about a disease that's predestined to death. We all are gonna die anyway. isn't it?
Then again this sort of disease doesn't often happen to people like us. It happens to celebrities or maybe other people but not "US"
Maybe this is the only disease that has the ability to might even make one feel like, it's out of their league!- way too high profile disease!
Or maybe we simply think its just so rare that it's never gonna happen to us or one of us. so we don't necessarily need to know about it as much as other glorified diseases.
This was my thinking too just a few days back.
And then it happend to my father. That imaginary disease came down to us with the inevitable death penalty. My father had to take the verdict. So everyone around us wanted us to accept it and take the verdict as it is. Some even showered us with concern with a touch of reality check - "mentally prepare yourself for anything anytime." with sides of " be strong, don't breakdown, you have to be the brave one. bla bla bla.
We took those all in - helps, supports, concerns vices as well as advices. Specially i tried to honor their concerns. Im supposed to be the stong one, the one with no emotional outbursts. So I kept listening to all that im supposed to in some cases those that i had to.
Though One thing i couldn't do was preparing myself for the death of my father.
Cause i don't know how someone prepare themselves for a perpetual death, specially when it's one of our parents?
And I don't know how they expect us to preapare ? Their advice did not came with a manual like " how to prepare for your fathers inevitable death" or "how not to feel anyhting when your father dies".
Which left me baffled. Am i missing something? Is there a crash course on 'mental preparation for death' that me and my sister didn't know about? Is there really a way to get hurt any less if you know about the death beforehand? Do they all secretly know about it and we dont? All this question gave me a break from the actual problem.
And i kept on wondering,
Is it really possible to be prepared for a death even if you are the one who is pulling the plug? Did anyone really knows how to compress the effect of the pian that we are supposed to feel? Even if one knows should we do it? Should we just skip the parts that hurts so that we can jump onto the ones thats happy?
Besides do we really need to tell someone to prepare themselves for a death of a parent? Don't you think they already knows? Even if they don't know, is it necessary to tell or remind them the horror that is coming towards them? Does anyone need to or is it even possible to prepare for a death? - Any death? Don't you think everyone deserves to feel the pain of their loss in their own way? When you are telling them aren't you taking away their option to grief? I don't understand why would someone do this to someone they claims to care about. who are already fighting a battle that they know they can never win? Why can't our concerns be more thoughtful and personalized according to ones need?
End of the day aren't we all dying? Since we all know that, is anyone really prepared for it?
Now let me tell you something...
My father is going to live exactly how long he is supposed to live. And He will die when he is supposed to. Just like "You" And "I"
I won't grief his death even a moment before. And i know my father feels the same way too.