Do we often encounter such a situation in our life: when a child comes back from school, he throws his schoolbag heavily and asks him what happened, but he says impolitely: "you are bored!"
When his wife asked him what to eat for dinner, he said rudely, "I've been married for so long. Don't you know what I like to eat?"
The husband came back from work and saw his wife sitting in the living room with her child in her arms. He went over and asked, "are you in a bad mood?"Unexpectedly, his wife said angrily, "how can you come back now?"
These people are not satisfied with their own heart, but they put their anger on the innocent people. This is anger.When a person is in a bad mood, usually it will affect his attitude towards the outside world, such as fear, irritability, anger, doubt, indifference. These emotions may hurt the people around him.Transfer the stimulation of pressure and pain to the people around you can affect the people around you to a certain extent.Venting certain emotions to achieve their own psychological balance, which is conducive to their own health.
At the same time, it may promote their own selfish thinking habits, so it is incomprehensible.You should know that the people around you are family members, friends and partners who should be treated with love and care. It is unfair and incomprehensible for all people to let them share their bad emotions by venting their anger.At the end of the day, it's yourself who gets the most from anger.
There is a story like this: Tracy's boss was in a bad mood because of his work. Tracy happened to enter the boss's office to submit documents. The boss was in a rage. After reading the information twice and again, he got angry with Tracy, saying that she had no intention to collect information.
Tracy felt aggrieved. She drove these documents out all night yesterday. Even if the boss didn't read them carefully, she was still angry with her somehow?Just then, Tracy's cell phone rang. It turned out that her boyfriend called. When she was in a bad mood, she picked up the phone and scolded, "are you free? Don't you know I'm at work?Do you want me to support you for the rest of your life
Tracy's boyfriend was also scolded for some inexplicable reasons. He was originally a salesman. He sprained his foot when he was on a business trip two days ago. He asked his girlfriend to buy vegetables when he went out in the morning. He said he would cook at home at noon, but he had to call her to discuss what food to buy.So, there was the phone call.
Tracy's boyfriend is walking down the street angry. He plans to go to the restaurant and have a good meal, regardless of his girlfriend.I happened to come to the door of Tracy's unit. When I saw a stray dog on the road, I kicked it severely.The stray dog, who was looking for food, was kicked out of the house and screamed in pain.At this time, Tracy's boss was coming out of the company when the stray dog jumped up and bit him hardThis story illustrates a truth that "the result of anger is ultimately hurt yourself.".The boss is angry with Tracy, Tracy is angry with her boyfriend, her boyfriend is angry with the stray dog, and the stray dog is angry at the irrelevant passers-by. It happens that the passer-by is the hateful boss.It's like running around a circle, from the starting point back to the starting point.
So we think of a sentence: "angry is to take other people's mistakes to punish themselves.".
People can't help being angry sometimes.It's great to be angry and not to be angry with others.In fact, the abusive boss is the most incompetent. If all problems can be solved by scolding, then the shrew is the most powerful person.
The scolded are generally unconvinced and full of rebellion.When this kind of rebellion accumulates to a certain extent, it will naturally seek the exit, so it is very annoying, so it will be angry.Some things, after the event, often feel that there is no reason to get angry, so there is a step back to the sea and the sky.But with a knife at the beginning of forbearance, it is hard to bear.Forbearance is not incompetence or humiliation, but a kind of recuperation and moral character.
No matter how fair a society is, there are always differences among individuals, such as superiority, inferiority, wisdom, wealth, strength, and so on. And almost no lucky person is superior to others in all aspects.Due to the common social contradictions and human weakness, everyone will be fooled, impolite, insulted and even raped by others intentionally or unintentionally.
The offender is often stronger than the offended, so the offended person has to suppress his resentment temporarily out of the reality of self-protection, and instead vent his anger to the weaker individuals than himself.But the weaker individuals will also pass on their anger to others, and the final victims are often the wives or children of the weakest, who will be beaten and scolded by their husbands or fathers for no reason.
But the whole "chain of anger" did not end here.In the children's world, anger spreading and transmission follows the same trajectory as adults, and then when these children grow up, they will regard other old people and even their parents as targets of anger.As a result, this grumpy anger finally entered a vicious circle in the process of mutual friction, thin accumulation and thick hair.
Vent anger aggravates the misfortune of every era and individual in the society. It makes the world lose a lot of joy and makes many families lose their original warmth. Almost all the troubles and misfortunes are caused by anger, or aggravated by anger, and can't be cleaned up.
To what extent can a person strive for justice, have a clear understanding of gratitude and resentment, maintain dignity and maintain personality, he may jump out of the "chain of anger", which not only effectively curbs the evils of the strong, but also effectively promotes the peace of the world and the warmth of the family.Strengthen their own moral cultivation, so that they have a peaceful heart.
For us, we have been wronged, or the situation has been very bad, the best way is to resolve their inner imbalance.Don't spread bad emotions to others, it will only lead to worse results.In short, we should try our best not to be angry.