I often feel that what it really comes down to, once we realize how some things are not serving us and how things could be better if we challenged ourselves to make change, is that we don't actually believe we deserve it and are afraid of our own power. Most of us on a deep level don't love ourselves enough to give ourselves the best. It takes a lot of personal responsibility to create the life of our dreams, as we have to hold ourselves accountable to making that happen. If we thought we were worthy, we would be doing it without question.

I've also seen it as a process, sometimes baby steps at a time, and I've also had the realization that it could be instantaneous , so to not be attached to dragging it out unnecessarily. Being loving with yourself regardless is a wise choice.

Thanks for the comment @earthgoddess. You indeed are not alone!