You're Worth More Than You Know | Self Help Motivation | TotalTransformation

you're worth more than that do you want to be liked do you want other people to seek your company do you try too hard for others to like you do you compromise what you believe to stay with a person or group if you answered yes to all of the questions you have a lot of rethinking to do about your life we all want to be well-liked in fact we instinctively seek out other people with the same interests just so we have a group where we feel comfortable and where we can be ourselves this is not a problem we all want the same thing we all want to be liked then reality steps in and you realize that not everybody likes you so what do you do you do the right thing stop trying to make people like you everybody in the world is different even twins are wired differently from each other there is no guarantee that all the people you meet will like you because you do not think the same as everybody else there will always be a difference be it big or small that makes every one of us unique you have to accept that not everybody is going to like you and some people not liking you as okay stop beating yourself up because some people you have not met are just met don't like you it is not all about you the problem could be with those people just as you have issues in your life they also have their own hangups that affect how they see others there is a lot of truth in what our mothers used to tell us when we were younger the reason some people do not like you as most likely because they envy you and they cannot be like you people who envy others are often consumed by and they tend to be spiteful towards those whom they envy when being disliked or ignored makes you feel inadequate love youself more by distancing yourself from people who make you feel that way have as little to do with people who have a negative impact on you as possible they will bring you down to their level and they will be satisfied with that do not make them happy by being affected by their dislike leave them alone and continue to live your life you do not have to change for others to like you you just need to meet the right people the approval seeking syndrome and how its identified the approval seeking syndrome or ass as a personality disorder whereby those afflicted by it place an unhealthy level of concern on gaining or seeking the approval of others in order to fulfill a deep emotional need we've all met someone in life who constantly aimed to receive praise and affirmation from those around them even at the detriment of self granted everyone can benefit from healthy praise or gratitude for a job well done regarding achievements there's nothing wrong with seeking approval from those we love but when you begin to compromise yourself in pursuit of approval it affects your psychological state the approval seeking syndrome produces an overwhelming need of approval from others and sufferers will avoid disagreements because they are reluctant to rock the boat and potentially lose favor with their loved ones emotionally they may appear self-sacrificing while embellishing or over emphasizing their appearance their careers achievements or status in order to gain the approval and admiration of those around them often times people with ass will work tirelessly by spending money or time on those around them in order to win their approval people who suffer from the approval seeking syndrome generally have submissive clingy behavior and fear being separated from those whose approval they seek as children they may have been taught to strive for recognition from their parents the parents may have pushed the children so fervently to obtain gratification that they became estranged from their authentic characteristics and confused about their natural emotional needs and inclinations children who grow up in dysfunctional neglectful homes often deal with a withdrawal of affection as they grow older they continually seek the attention of those around them as a way of confirming one's love or depth children in these environments often do not develop a true sense of self and either develop an inflated sense of self or an undeveloped sense of self-worth or a lack of self esteem the approval seeking syndrome often leaves you vulnerable to opportunists who seek emotionally damaged people manipulators prey on weak victims and are keenly aware of people who will consistently work to gain the approval of those around them some game players will use those afflicted with this syndrome as a weapon and a scare tactic which forces them to believe they need to continually meet those demanding needs and expectations in order to be worthy or acceptable of their love you're worth more than that somebody once said love as when you care more about another's happiness than your own love is an amazing feeling no doubt but how far are you willing to go and how much of yourself are you willing to give up for your partner's happiness when you've been in love once and had your heart broken it takes so long to move on that you start feeling like it's not worth it at all you swear to yourself that you'll never do it again but that's never the case is it when you've healed when the scars have faded you want what you had you crave to feel the way you felt before it's like an addictive drug you tell yourself that you're better off without it but you feel you can't live without it so you hope and you wait and you pray for something to happen until it seems like you're waiting for a miracle finally your impatience is awarded your prayer is answered and you have someone you feel complete you have someone who is all yours it's an amazing feeling you think about this person all day every day you never want to leave their side soon the honeymoon phase is over and your miracle starts showing signs of disinterest they've got this new person in their life and it's beginning to worry you they lie to you they get you to do things for them you wouldn't normally do while they're out doing god knows what one day when you feel like you can't take it anymore you break down and tell them how you feel they tell you that you've got nothing to worry about and you're the only one they will ever love this goes on and on but you won't end it because you're afraid of being lonely though you already are if you are in this place listen closely you are worth more than this you are worth more than being in an emotionally taxing and depressing relationship not breaking it off because you're scared of being all alone well I have some good news for you there is somebody out there whose whole world as you just waiting you have got to stop feeling like you're not good enough because you are you are beautiful and smart and funny and caring and someone will come along who will love all of you and every imperfection someone who will love you for you tips to become a happier you one take time to discover what makes you happy learn what your strengths and weaknesses are and develop those accordingly to get in tune with your own needs and stop worrying so much about what others think 3 spend time learning how to appreciate your own company and don't rely on having people around you all the time to please them and their needs for don't let the opinions of others weigh you down and create insecurities in you 5 build your self-esteem with support groups and loving friends and family who want you to build a healthy self-esteem 6 learn to say no understand that no is a complete sentence and that you don't have to feel guilty when you say no

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