Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities have been exhausted, we still have the thought: “I wish I were someone else.” Very often we think and believe that someone, or rather most people, are better than us. – although in reality most people are more afraid than we are.
You notice a charming girl sitting alone at a party, casually sipping a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “She seems perfectly calm and confident.”"But if you could read her mind clearly, you would see a lot of thought clouds and you might be surprised that she's thinking, 'People are talking about why am I sitting here alone? … Because men don’t find me attractive.” .” ?...I don't like my ankles, they look too thin... I wish I was as smart as my best friend.
We look at a young entrepreneur and say, “Wow, what more could he want?” He looks in the mirror and murmurs, “I hate my big eyes... I wonder why my friends don't talk to me... Me hope mom and dad are always well."
Isn't that funny? We look at others, we envy them because they seem so incredibly perfect, and we wish we could change places with them while they look at us and think the same thing.We are not safe from others who are not safe from us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope of improving ourselves because we sink into silent despair.
Sometimes, you're the last person to recognise that you have a bothersome habit, such as gnawing your fingernails or having a filthy mouth.
I have a friend who is always up for conversation. She is also the only one in most conversations who appears engaged in what she has to say. Because of this, whenever she is around, all of our other friends prefer to avoid her, and she is unaware of how severely socially disabled she has become and how this has slowly affected those around her.
Talking and listening to a dependable buddy is one way to develop oneself. Find someone with whom you feel comfortable sharing even the most delicate matters. Inquire about things like "Do you think I'm rude?" "Do I always sound so argumentative?" "Do I talk too loud?" "Does my breath smell?" "Do I ever bore you when we're together?" and similar topics. The other person will clearly understand that you are interested in the process of self-improvement if you do this. Don't respond to her complaints or remarks with anything like "Don't exaggerate! I'm just like that!" the door.
Stop considering yourselves to be inferior human beings. Stop thinking, "If only I were thinner," "If only I were richer," and similar thoughts. To develop yourself, start by accepting who you really are. We must quit comparing ourselves to others just to discover that we have ten more reasons to be envious of them in the end.
Everybody has insecurities. Nobody is flawless. We constantly yearn for greater products, traits, bodily parts, etc. But for people to be content with themselves, life does not have to be ideal.Self-improvement and self-love do not include yelling to the world that you are the finest and flawless. It is the quality of accepting and being content. We start to feel satisfied and content when we start to better ourselves.
