Forgive me @barncat i am not trying to judge you but i feel you are a pessimist and it is easy for such a mindset to attract negativity.

I have had a tyre of a vehicle i was driving pull off in a speed lane but i am still here...
I have had a bulletproof sheild of over 600kg fall on me and amazingly i had a chip fracture in my left foot, a scratch in my forehead and a shifted spine that made me wear a corset for 3months...this would have been worse days for me but they are process days. I am immune from a bad day, that is the mindset i work and walk with. Should a day look bad, i see the process in it because 'the fire will not be easy on the gold'

One of the best moments of my life was when i held my child in my hand at the hospital as she was born. Believe me, it was a priceless moment but i realized that to the doctors it was a normal daily occurence something they werent 'excited' about. But guess what @barncat, the doctors reactions did not make it less of a priceless moment for me as my joy knew no bounds.

In life, i have come to realize that there is an energy train around us and our thoughts and actions drive the corresponding energy towards us. Attract the right energy and your process days will only make you more of a better person. I hope you see this reply @barncat.
God bless you sir