Being a father - teaching the kid about power

Hi,

I've mentioned, a couple of times, that I have a young son. I like being a father, and this fuels me every day. It gives me grit and motivation. It also obliges me to take of him and his mom, who happens to be my wife.

I try to teach him, how to be a man, and to stay straight, despite the challenges that life bring him.

Till now, genetics have been good to him, as he is taller than the average of his age, is handsome (must have got it from his mom) and somehow good at mathematics. At kindergarten, he had only one kid who was aggressive to him, being almost the same size. I told him, that he has three options, to try to solve it by talking, ignore it or hitting back.

The first option is mostly for human beings that can reason and have at least some common sense. Also, he can walk it off, which I'm doing if I can't reason. Last would be to strike back. Yes, I teach my kid to hit, if he is hit. My parents are good people, but always downplayed hitting back.

So, he came a month or so back, and told me that this kid pushed him again, and that he hit back. The other kid was shocked and told the teachers about it. Well, next day I had a meeting with them and told that it is fine to do so. By the way, he is at a catholic kindergarten, where they pray before each meal and are taught morals from the Bible.

I was proud of him, that he stood strong but was humble, as he really did not want to do it. Since he was 2 months old he started with sports, like he could swim before walking and now since he was two, he started with karate.

He felt the power, but did not want to use it, at his little age, there was no purpose of being cruel, even with the power.

I told him: Power makes the bad cruel, and the good humble. It shows your character and real moral strength, as Carl Jung would say. I was proud of him, and there is nothing wrong to be proud of a strong kid.

Definitely, time will forge him, and he can only choose the path of being bad or good as for now, he has the strength to be both.

What can I do, is to show him his power and teach him how to use it. Not to brag with it and not to abuse it. Power used wisely is an asset, it gains respect. It is always better to be respected than to be feared. Respect grows loyalty, fear grows treason. I teach him, that respect grows envy in bad people. He just needs to avoid them as he can., or at least not let them in his inner circle.

How about you? What do you teach your kids? What would be the most important teaching to your kid?

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