SEX + toys! Opinions needed...!

in blog •  7 years ago 

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So, as a heterosexual woman I've noticed a trend in guys near or around my age or younger than me..... (I'm 29) seem to be annoyed when i want to use a vibrator during the act! This has happened to me multiple times.

But when I am with an older and generally more shall we say experienced partner toys are welcome!

Here's the comments I've gotten from guys my age about use of vibrator during sex (again more than a few times this has happened):

  • oh so my dick doesn't do it for you
  • so you don't think I'm good at sex
  • I thought you came when i ate you out
  • the toy isn't natural you shouldn't need it
  • I won't last as long if you use that

Okay either there is a general trend of guys in their 20's not confident in their manhood or they are just complete oblivious cavemen.

I mean I don't immediately whip out the vibe...but I do need it or some clitoral stimulation to orgasm. My most powerful orgasms are from vibrator stimulation and penile combined!

And I don't think i need to dredge up all the studies of how common it is for many women to need clitoral stimulation during sex.

So my question to the guys (or ladies) - what is the deal? Why would you be upset if I wanted to compliment your glorious penis with my vibrator? What could I potentially be doing "wrong " to make a guy feel that way?

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"Okay either there is a general trend of guys in their 20's not confident in their manhood or they are just complete oblivious cavemen." i can tell it is thats why, it was the same for me 4-5 years ago, now its totally normal for me, not to say, its fucking hot sex like this.

Haha thanks for your input. I suppose we tend to expand our horizons as we get older.

It's the confidence. "oh so my dick doesn't do it for you" - this sums it up actually.

I don't understand it though bevause i don't feel i CONVEY that i think that because i don't

We are who we are... nothing more, nothing less... which includes all of the shortcomings... (no pun intended) lol... At the end of the day, what ever floats your boat is all that matters - and if those fortunate enough to be close to you in that can float their respective boats in concert, well - that's as close to heaven as we're gonna get in this realm... Thanks for sharing... ;)

haha upvoting ths. my girlfriend is gonna get one she says it would be sexy for me to use it. and it takes for ever for her to come so it should be fun

Nice. I think she will enjoy herself. :) the shibari mini halo 20x speed is nice and not too pricey on amazon. Thx for the upvote :)

In generally in this kind of cases is about masculine ego. Most of the guys at 20-30 years have a strong ego and when is about sex they think about them selves that are some kinda of Titus Steel. But no all men's are same.

That's basically what I'm thinking. I never try to demasculinate...but just suggestions for more fun :)

I think it would be very interesting to add a toy into the mix!

I guess not all are so adventurous ;)

Or open minded or wanting to try new things in life ;) haha

You got it. There is simply not enough open minded people! In general. But in this case geez i shouldn't have to feel weird going into a sex store. I feel like I cant just shop without OTHER people giving off weird vibes to me. Going into a sex store for a woman (or male) shouldn't have to feel any different than going grocery shopping

That's true! I thought it would be more simpler in the states! I've never been into one but would love to walk-in for the experience of it haha! But I agree with you. The society has a way of making the most normal things weird.