Life, Life, Life...
I lay awake at night thinking about questions that don't have answers, many of us do. As people, we don't like thinking about the hard questions. The questions that nobody can answer for you, except yourself. Even though you CAN answer them, sometimes we don't like the answers that come out of our thoughts. Instead of realizing the truth, the reality that we need, we decide to push it to the utmost corner of our minds, never to be touched until another dark rainy night.
Where am I going with this?
Why is life so difficult?
My answer is very simple--we make it complicated. There are issues that continue to revolve, like a continuous never-ending cycle of pain, suffering, sorrow, stress, and depression. I understand that many will say that it isn't that simple. We have obligations, jobs, duties, responsibilities, chores, etc. That isn't what I'm looking at when I say that life is unnecessarily complicated.
How We Deal With Problems
Problems are always there. However, many times, we overcomplicate the issues in front of us. Emotions run high, typically hurting everyone within the blast zone due to pent-up anger and sadness that comes from life issues. Being optimistic isn't always the solution, many times it isn't. Optimism will not make you happier on its own. It is a tool and like all tools, it has its time and place.
Another tool we need it knowing there is a limit of how much you can control your life. Even though we can control our actions, we cannot control those of others, our environments, and luck/unluckiness. There are millions of variables and knowing you did the best you could and acted appropriately should help lessen the "complicatedness" of your life. Learn to give "less fucks!" Devoting all your emotions in a negative way to a problem will not help. There is only so much you can care about a day, save the emotions for things that matter and ignore those that don't. Work drama is definitely a place we can all save our "fucks" for other more stressful events. Balance, balance, balance!