Great story, very moving. I too felt as if I never grieved for my parents when they died and wondered if and when it would hit me. It never did. I think my belief system helped me through that time. I don't see 'death' as final. I believe when we think of them we reconnect at some level, they being much freer to come and go from this 3D reality that the rest of us are stuck in. I feel they know everything happening in our lives and your dad will be following your daughters progress and know what a great mother you are. Maybe you know this too and hence no real need to grieve.