It sounds so simple, it is the number one key to happiness in your life and yet most of us fail to understand and practice to properly 

LOVE YOURSELF!

In our society we were taught to compare our lives to others. This is actually the number one reason why I think the traditional education system is BS! Because it's all about comparison. The math guy doesn't feel worthy, because his grades in gym class are worse than of those who are bad in math and the opposite way.

Subconsciously we have incredible confidence issues, and especially as a teenager it only gets worse and as a female... well you know.. I actually wrote a blogpost about this topic last year: 

Beauty Standards Of 2016 - Kardashians - Instagram - And Diet Teas 

Now think about how you treat yourself. Are you hard on yourself and often think you aren't good enough? If questions like the following constantly pop into your head.. you should continue reading...

If I loose 10 pounds, I will be more attractive...

If I find partner, I will be happier...

If I have more money, I my life will be better...

This voice inside your head that is constantly telling you what you need to change about yourself, that is not you!

It never was and never will be. You are YOU, not better, not worse. Actually if we wouldn't have judgement in our language, it wouldn't exist. Good and bad are are decisions, not how something is. It's what you choose to see. And I'm going to keep it real with you, I have this voice in my mind and I haven't gotten rid of, beaten it at some point. This voice can actually be helpful in the right kind of situations, just like fear. It's a tool that historically speaking is meant to protect you as a human being. When you judge a situation, it can be helpful right? But then again the voice doesn't differentiate or know when its needed. That is your job, to recognize when fear or judgement creeps into your mind and then you have the power to make an active choice and decide if you want to listen, or let go.

In the case of judging yourself for something you aren't or don't have, is silly, doesn't help you in any way and only gets you away from any kind of progress. When I hear the voice of doubt, fear, judgement when it's unnecessary, I like to confront it with arguments like the following:

No one is going to love you if you don't love yourself.

No matter where you are on your journey, that's  exactly where you need to be.

If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.

And find other positive attributes that apply to YOU. 

Here is a task: Dig deep and find real and honest reasons why you love yourself. Make a list of things you love about yourself, you can do it in form of a love letter and every time you are starting to feel unworthy, read it out loud and add a new point.

I haven't tried this exact method yet, but I do like to have conversations with the voice in my head, confront it and argue with it, until I win.

Often we are afraid to love ourselves because we think it's egoistical. But there is a huge difference between selfishness and practicing self-love. When you love yourself, you are your own best friend, and a best friend is always there to help, guide and be kind. In reality “being there” for yourself is a healthy way to live.

When you go to the doctor to check on your physical health, it means you are taking care of your body, which you identify as the self. But when you know that the self actually isn't your body, you have a body, but you are your heart and your soul.. then why not care for your emotional and mental self by loving yourself enough to make the decision to be first in your life. 

Be romantic!

I honestly and truly mean, treat yourself like you would treat the love of your life or your best friend. From my experience, often the kindest people are the meanest to themselves. Take yourself out to eat, treat yourself right, spend time alone and most importantly give and forgive yourself!

Also, if you learn to love yourself and you actually like being "alone", because you enjoy your own company, something else happens.. you no longer depend on other people for your own happiness. Because when you realize that you already have everything you need to live your best life, you stop demanding and start appreciating more. Friends and family are great, but being able to enjoy spending time alone is very important. Like I mentioned in previous posts I love to travel with my friends, but the really exciting experiences full of growth happen during solo-travels.

Self-worth is about believing you are beautiful, no matter how you look, and believing in your capabilities during triumphs and defeats. It's about feeling good about who you are, regardless of what others might think. It's being happy, without needing external validation. It's about loving yourself through life’s highs and lows. There’s only one “you” in this world, so don’t conceal or fake that. Let the world see the real you because you’re worthy. Embrace yourself and celebrate who you are. 

- Elite Daily 

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Much love, 

- Mrs.Steemit