Journey of acceptance

They say that for someone to be fully happy you need to accept what kind of situation you are in. Even adults find it hard to cope or adjust easily, specially for a toddler. They don't know how to control their emotions yet.

I want to share how my eldest daughter's journey on accepting that she already has a little sister (already born).

March 8, it's was evening when Aimhie (my eldest daughter) visited us in the hospital after birth together with her grandpa & aunt. She ran towards me, i was carrying her little sister. She said to put down the baby in a crib because she is already asleep. I told her she is our baby 2 (which means 2nd baby), she answered back with a big "NO". She pointed to my tummy (still big than it's non pregnant size) and said that here is baby 2, inside my tummy.

She hugged me so tight like she never saw me in a year, and kissed my cheeks. Calling me "mama" repeatedly. Aimhie wants to sleep together with me in the hospital but it's not allowed. Her grandpa told her their about to go home, she said that i must go home with them. I can see in her eyes, she is confused, sad and maybe jealous because she's not the one i was cuddling with.

It was March 9 we finally got home before lunch. When she saw me coming home she so happy, jumping around like celebrating for a home coming. She pouted her lips when she saw her little sister. I put Faven (her little sister) down the sofa, but i was surprised when she throw her Lego to het little sister. Instead of hitting or getting angry to Aimhie, i asked her why she did that. She answered with a jealous face trying to explain that the baby in front of her is not her baby 2.

As days passed by, i continued explain her that the baby i brought home is her little sister. Most of the time she ignored me,she becomes a daddy's girl. I don't know if she's starting to become a brat. Every night when she's sleeping i'm staring at her, asking myself what should i do to let her feel that i loved her just like before her little sister came.

I can't took care of Aimhie the way i did before because of my stitches that's still hurting, i'm recovering from giving birth. I don't know how she feels, i can't even ask her 'cause she's only 2 years old. One night she sleep beside me (i think it's Faven's 5th day), "mama hug" she said, actually it's our routine when sleeping.

On 5th day, one of our neighbor is teasing her (one of her grandmas). She carry Faven and trying to bring her outside. Before her grandma stands up, she pinch her and give her an angry stare. We all laughed because she starts to care for her little sister. That moment is so priceless, as a mother i'm touched of how she reacted when someone try to get her little sister.

That night i put Faven beside Aimhie, they're both sleeping. I just fix Faven's beddings, this is what i saw when i came back:

She's about to hug her big sister, i remember when she's still inside my womb everytime Aimhie's crying she keep on moving inside until her big sister stops. Such a loving little sister!

Exactly one week of Faven, she finally took a picture with us.
At first she try to poke her cheek while i feed her.

Then i took them a selfie while chatting with my younger brother, who's checking after us.

This is our 1st photo together with my two daughters:

I think this is one of the photos deserved to be treasure, the very moment makes me realize that having someone who really cares for you is really a blessing.

Thanks for taking time to read!