How far do I go to please someone who thinks they are dying? #blurt

Thanks to @jaynie for turning the #blurt idea of @alexpmorris on Whaleshares into a tag and consequently into a 'thing'. The idea is to keep posts short and sweet rather than lengthy & informational, which I do resonate with. This however, will be neither short nor sweet... but in my mind it is still a #blurt

or perhaps it is just a #rant

Either way, it is something I feel like saying in this moment.

The Journey

Sabrina & I came to this part of France to be with her mother who has a stomach cancer. She has been told to expect death in the next year or so and we have been told that due to this expectation we are to behave exactly as she wants us to behave so that she may enjoy this time as much as possible.

The Rules

Officially these rules don't exist, but having been here for almost a year now they have become visible through understanding that there are consequences when they are not met.

• No talking about natural methods of recovery.
• Be sad when she is sad.
• Be prepared to let go of our own rules around the way we have chosen to bring up Esteban.

I have long since given up on offering advice relating to her health and avoid her when she is down, because I am not prepared to be sad for anyone.

The third rule however I am struggling with because it relates to Esteban.

Once a week he spends the night with her and comes back every time with tales of new sugared treats, endless hours of ipad use and bedtime when the clock says one one. Which is Esteban talk for 11pm.

I would be able to let this go if it wasn't for the reality that now he doesn't want to eat the nutritious food & drinks we prepare for him. Instead he just wants ice-cream, cake, biscuits, sweets... you get the idea.

Unlike before he screams and screams when we try to take the ipad away from him and he is no longer interested in going to bed before 11pm, creating huge dramas if we try and stick to the routine we had previously established.

The Predicament

Esteban understands clearly that his granny is sick and he also understands (as best a child can) the idea that we can help each other using hands-on healing, otherwise known as Reiki.

He has learned Reiki from watching me and takes it very seriously when he does it on others. The first time I came to this village in which we now live was for the specific purpose of giving Sabrina's mother Reiki, long before we were talking about babies.

So, there is a strange feeling of continuation now because I am told that while Esteban is with his granny he often spends an entire hour with his hands upon her stomach, focused upon her perfect health, as I have taught him.

I know he is unlike most children because I can feel it, but don't have much to offer as proof, except for the constant V shape on his forehead which I have come to believe means he has a heightened energy in his third eye. You can see it clearly in this image.

His sister Luna, by the way, was born with one pupil bigger than the other.

I assume this relates to the way she sees the world, but she is too young yet to get much information from. When she is old enough I will do my best to learn what her gift is.

Speaking to Esteban about his Reiki sessions with his granny he is very clear that he is making her better. Speaking to his granny about this, she is very clear that his sessions are helping her.

So, what if he really is making her better?

His heart and his intention is so pure. There can surely be no greater power than this?

The Bottom Line

Based on what I can see & FEEL she is not dying in the dramatic way which has been suggested but due to her trust in the medical system and its expensive & gloomy prognosis, she believes she is. And this creates the 'I can do whatever I like' feeling.

Reiki works best when there is an exchange going on and it is evident now the arrangement has been made. Treats for Reiki!

So...do I request (again) that she stick to our family rules when Esteban stays over with her? Which will likely only result in her teaching Esteban how to keep secrets from us!

Or do I just accept that as a (supposedly) dying person she has the right to adjust the way Esteban sees the world? Making our lives and potentially even his life, harder as a result?

Ahhhhh.... I feel much better now that is out.

Thanks for listening!

#therapeuticblurt

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