Maintaining your physical and emotional limits is crucial for your mental well-being.
You stop others from crossing and ignoring your limits when you establish them and make them clear to them.
We'll discuss how to set and maintain personal limits in this article.
Self-awareness is the foundation for being able to set boundaries.
Identifying and being conscious of your limits is the first step towards drawing and safeguarding them.
In order to accomplish this, you must establish an intention to comprehend the things that annoy you, irritate you, or give you a daily sense of being undervalued.
You have probably experienced the feeling of having a range of strong emotions, including anger, triggered by someone's comment.
The circumstances that trigger these reactions, or the boundaries, are frequently subjective even though the reactions are frequently identical.
To put it another way, not all people may get triggered by the same conditions that we do.
Though most individuals would never engage in actions like lying, cursing at someone, or making disparaging remarks about their looks or intelligence, there are instances that call for close examination and awareness since they directly affect our own basic principles.
One of my instructors used to refer to these subjective states as "hooks" while discussing these individual moods. He said that every one of us has hooks from the events we have had in life.
For instance, a person who experienced frequent reprimands from his parents as a youngster could experience extreme anxiety when they hear loud noises years later. That's his own selling point.
For this individual, hearing someone else become agitated towards him triggers memories of being reprimanded or having his feelings repressed.
For a more dramatic example, even a gentle touch as an adult may cause you discomfort if you were exposed to violence as a youngster.
It might only take your boss giving you a pat on the back or putting a hand on your arm to bring back memories of those terrifying childhood experiences.
Consider for a moment what your own particular hooks are. What circumstances currently cause you to feel strongly emotional due to something that happened in the past?
If you find it difficult to identify these events at first, consider the instances in which you were unable to explain your feelings and were unable to comprehend how you should have responded.
Now recall an instance when someone brushed against or touched this private hook of yours. What is the feeling on this? How would you respond in such a circumstance?
Becoming aware of yourself is the most crucial step in the process of setting limits for yourself. You may do this by observing yourself every day with a high degree of nonjudgment and noting what triggers you.
The next time you're feeling wounded or furious with someone else, consider the following: Did this person intentionally offend me, or did they unintentionally step into one of my traps?