EGO HABITS SELECTING YOUR FORCE

You made the decision to develop, outlined goals and even laid out a development plan, and even initiated actions.

but something inside of you sabotages all your attempts to become better. The most powerful saboteur inside each of us is our EGO. Here is his article devoted to his usual methods of resistance to development and selecting your strength. These are the habits that are worth laying out of your hiking backpack)

The habit of comparing.

The habit of comparing yourself with someone-a trap that takes your time and energy, it's like a weight on your leg, preventing you from moving along your life path. As long as you compare yourself with others - you refuse to see yourself as the present and take your individuality. you can not take a step forward in the path of self-development. For you ignore your sources of inner strength in search of external examples, in the search for idols, teachers and mentors. On your comparison, your dependent interaction with the world is formed. Comparison is always based on competition, competition.

The habit of competing and proving.

Behind the desire to "become better" is often hidden the need for the ego to receive approval from outside (from parents, meaningful people, etc.). in receiving the energy of love. But this is often the deepest part of the iceberg, but on the surface you can see it as a desire to compete and prove your superiority in anything over anyone. This zealous craving is like a narcotic craving-all the same addiction. While the restrained ego is your only incentive, you will live on a race. There will always be those who are better and who have more. Only the goal of life is to be, not to compete. Be yourself in here and now, not better than a neighbor.

Only an unfortunate person tries to prove that he is happy; Only a dead person tries to prove that he is alive; only a coward tries to prove that he is brave. Only a man who knows his lowlands is trying to prove his greatness. - Osho.

The habit of hoping.

This is probably the most sticky habit of the ego.

By refusing to believe in yourself, you live in hope and expectation. You hope that the current will pick you up or there will be one who will carry you through life. You are always waiting for something and do not know what to expect. You are frightened by life, but the responsibility frightens you more.

And expectations are often the basis of suffering, for as a rule your expectations are not fulfilled while you are hoping-you are idle-sit on the pope and wait for a miracle. Believe and hope are completely different concepts. Believe = act Hope = do nothing.

The habit of "understanding everything"

The desire to infect the mind with info. Information omnivorous is no less dangerous than you will eat everything consecutively and sour, and fresh and herring with milk at the same time. Your stomach will quickly rebel, and you will spend some time in solitude on the toilet. The same rebellion occurs in your mind, because anal-from the information obtained will lead to loss of time and energy. Treat the information very carefully, everything is fine in moderation.

Yes, and the very understanding of what-or does not change your reality of life. It's just a theory stored in your mind, and that is not a fact that will become your practice, bringing a qualitative change in your life.

The habit of being a victim.

This is a very cunning game of the ego. She can disguise herself for any masks, and so it's so difficult to track her role as a victim, but believe me, while this role is in the arsenal of your roles, self-development you can not see as your own ears. The victim is always the position of the child, always self-justification, always accusing someone of his failure or the inability to obtain a result in self-development. While you are sacrificing, you are straining, you are sick and lose your strength to restore balance. The sacrifice should be left in the past and in the present it is worthwhile to be the Creator of our own reality.

The habit is incoherent.

Thought-speech-action. This is a significant triad in the life of every person. How to think, and say, as we say, so usually we do. Having listened to the person attentively, it is possible to tell a lot about him, not being a fortune-teller)) Therefore, it is very important to pay special attention to your speech in the way of self-development. The mind likes to weave the verbal monograms, entangling in the sentences sometimes incompatible words, thereby creating confusion within itself. When the thought is clear, it is always easily packed into words. It's useless to talk about it, it's empty, it does not contain actions. Words are empty when there is no action in them. Our ancestors pronounced the words filled with actions. Let there be less words and more actions in your reality.

There are many things that evolve in EGO, but if you learn to follow the above, learn to replace these habits with more useful and reasonable ones, you will give yourself the opportunity to move where you want to yourself.) And yes, never regret anything !!