Since I've written so much about it I figured I would post a victory.
Today is a different kind of day for work, I'm going to have to work overnight. Because of that I actually was home while the sun was up, in fact my wife and I went to Costco, I filled up the gas can and did some shopping while I was there with the intent of taking a nap when a few chores were done. I was outside unloading the van and about to put gas in the lawn mower when I saw the mail truck coming up my street.
I went and stood next to the mail box and asked the postal carrier what it would take to get the "return to sender" and "not at address" mail removed from my mailbox. She said "usually your regular postal carrier would do that". Something I gathered from the conversation with my local support agent, the one that actually said she would have someone pick up that mail, was that I didn't have a regular carrier. Well, today the carrier took the not-my-mail away. She also handed me two pieces of mail, one was a check I had been waiting for, and after she drove away I noticed the other wasn't mine.
So I'm expecting the mailbox to fill up with not-my-mail again, but at least I got the last three months worth removed. She actually told me "I would file 13 it!" I told her that's a crime. She told me it wasn't.