"I have to leave my children to go to work and I must find someone I trust to take care of them in my absence." We are many parents that once we identify with this statement and it is not a simple situation, especially if we start from the premise of not having anyone known and trusted to take care of them (like a mother or friend). How to find the ideal person? How can you leave home quietly knowing that no one will hurt you?
To start, relax
Think that you are neither the first nor the last mother who has to leave your children to work and that many parents in your same situation found good nannies: if your children are well under the care of someone else, so will your children. But ... where to start looking?
Basically, you have two options: either send it to a daycare or get a nanny to go to your house. The good thing about day care is that your children can socialize with other children of the same age and, in addition, will be under the care of licensed professionals and vast experience supervised-in turn-by someone else. The bad thing is that you have to adjust to their strict schedules, they are usually expensive and in them the children get sick more. If the disadvantages of a nursery weigh you a lot, you have the option of getting a babysitter. The advantage is that your children stay at home, with their routines and spaces; the great disadvantage is that in your house they will be left alone and the nanny; there will be no more witnesses of how well-or badly-the babysitter fulfills its protective function. That's why it's hard to find someone we can trust.
To find a good nanny ask everyone you know if they know someone they trust. The sooner you start the search, the better. If you have no luck with word of mouth, turn to specialized job agencies. They will ask you what qualities you are looking for and will help you find the right person. In the agencies the references are checked as well as the criminal record: you can trust a lot in the person they offer you.
Once you've chosen a nanny, it's time to start building a relationship of trust with her. It is very difficult to leave your child in the care of someone you hardly know so if possible, use it one or two weeks before you have to start working. This way they will be able to know each other better and your children will be familiarized with her in your presence, which will give them security. When you finally have to work, avoid paranoid surveillance but never stop monitoring with discretion. Going to work and return to "find something forgotten" after a while, return unexpectedly from work one hour before or make video calls are some alternatives to check how you care for your children, although, in fact, the best indicator of how good or bad it is the nanny are your children. Observe them, ask them how their day was, what they did; monitor behavior changes and consider how the relationship with the nanny is. If you see that they love you and you find them happy when you get home, congratulations! You have found your ideal nanny.
All of us as parents care a lot about this aspect, it's a big question, so I hope this post will help you, if so, I hope you support me with your vote to be able to pay my nanny! xd
