Hello netizen, I am the foster mother of the child in the "9-year-old laolai case" in the news report, because the biological father of the child was sentenced to death and left 550,000 "debt", the 9-year-old, with a low income but become "Laolai.
We have no choice but to turn to the media now, because we have had eight lawsuits in the court, so we have no choice.
We hope that through media supervision of public power, the case will be retried and finally resolved.
Here, Let me tell you a story about my daughter.
She was adopted by accident, because my son was nearly 8 years old at the time and had never considered having a second child. By chance, we met.
The first time I saw her was on her third birthday. I saw a message posted by a friend, saying that there was an orphan in Zhengzhou who was going to celebrate her third birthday, but someone was willing to accompany her, so I bought a cake and a skirt.
When she saw me, she stretched out her hand to me, and I took the baby in my arms.
At that time, I didn't know much about her life, only that her parents were gone and she was an orphan.
At that time, it was obvious that she was developing later than a child of the same age, unlike a child of three, she was particularly delicate and distressed.
My normal sleep was ok, but I couldn't sleep for three days after returning, and my state drifted to near collapse.
Close your eyes, as if the child's mother is talking to me beside me, asking me to take care of the child.
Even so, I had no intention of adopting a child.
Because I have children, I know there are responsibilities.
However, I and the child's grandfather said, can be a child godmother, usually more to take her.
Maybe the don didn't hear him. "Ok," he said.
Just bring the baby to my house.
When I saw the baby, the whole family began to support me to adopt her, which was a very simple emotion, and then they kept the baby.
Now that he has been brought back, this is our child.
Next, I find kindergarten for her, a new name, because I happen to be a surname with my grandfather, so with my last name, household with grandpa.
We explained to our children that one of them was named after their father and the other was named after their mother.
Later, the child went to kindergarten, and we lived together as a family of four.
Grandpa spent most of the weekend together, and we lived together.
The child also asked me why I had to live with my grandfather when I was a child.
I explained that I couldn't help it because I had an extra child.
Now the child does not know her origin, she has a natural sense of integration with our family, no stranger to see anyone, our family are very fond of her, I think it is very good.
We didn't actually go through any legal formalities.
From the moment I took her back, I knew in my heart that she was my child, no different from my son, just like my own.
Her son and father also have a good relationship with her.
We never treat our two children differently. On the contrary, our family prefers girls. My daughter often says that others prefer boys to girls, while our family prefers girls to boys.
I did not care much for her because she was adopted; she had never doubted her parentage, for we got on so well together, and her good friends, too, were particularly fond of me.
I think boys and girls parenting methods are different, the boy more asked him to self-reliance and self-reliance, the girl is more to give her some love.
I pay great attention to cultivate her spirit and character, let her know: "I love you, you are also free."
I asked her to take many things as her own since childhood, communicate with social cognition, and let her make more decisions.
That way, when she grows up, she can face life on her own.
Usually I want to make her happy, happy, happy.
Often take her out on weekends or to other cities to experience a variety of life.
There are many moments of happiness between us, as well as unique expressions of love.
I wanted her to feel loved, "With my mother, I'm not afraid of anything."
In fact, I still have a little concern, is her mental growth.
After all, the tragedy in her family was so great that she was afraid that she would be extreme or extreme.
I hope she can have an open heart, a sunny mentality, not need to outstanding, just pray for peace.
As for the return of the house money, my grandfather has been handling the case, I only learned about two years ago.
Now the media is also helpless, because the court has been through eight lawsuits, it is no choice.
We are not trying to avoid paying our debts, but the case is not clear.
My grandfather also consulted several lawyers, all of whom believed that there were obvious errors in the application of the law in the case, and that it did not protect the minors to the maximum extent and consider the future impact on the children.
At the moment, that's what we're arguing about, so we're still going through the proceedings.
About this case, only grandpa and I know, after things can not take into account so much.
After the reporter interviewed, the president of jinshui District people's Court has initiated the case inquiry, so I have confidence in the retrial.
Now, my biggest fear is that when this comes to light, someone will bring up the child's story, and fear that the child will be subjected to social criticism because someone said she was "the daughter of a murderer."
But the children are innocent and the biggest victims.
We do not pray that we can help her, but hope that we do not take a malicious look at her, to give the child a chance to live.
I never regretted adopting her. On the contrary, I was grateful for the child.
In recent years, we have been growing up with each other.
When I first took her, I would be anxious because I was afraid that I could not give my child the best life and I would always worry that I could not be a perfect mother.
So, I am also studying hard to become the pride of my daughter.
For to be a good example to children, words and deeds are more useful than any preaching.
My son and daughter often say, "My mother is the parent of other families. My classmates all envy me."
Compared with a few years ago, I am in a better state of mind. I am neither anxious nor impatient. I think there are a lot of things in life.
In addition, when the child was growing up, a media friend who knew about her life had been paying close attention to her growth and gave her the greatest help and support through various efforts. I am very grateful!