I discovered something great, you and your spouse or life-partner can become soulmates. You must just work on this dream.

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You have to stay focussed to make this a reality, but there are some distractions that can keep you from becoming soulmates. In the last 3 posts we looked at some of these distractions:

• LACK OF INSPIRATION
• LACH OF VISION
• PASSING PLEASURES
• PROCRASTINATION
• DETACHMENT
• ATTACHMENT
• HALF MEASURES
• TRAPPED BY THE URGENT
• DISCOURAGEMENT!

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If you missed this posts you can go back on my blog. I end the last post with the following!

DUMP DISCOURAGEMENT - Don't let discouragement keep you down. Remember it is simply a mood - one that is temporary and not realistic!

So today we are moving on, if the above is keeping you from becoming soulmates, then what will help you?
You will have to look at the following to become soulmates:

• Focus
• Paying attention
• Act now, don't wait
• Attunement
• To love and to cherish
• Eyeing the Prize

Distractions is the enemy of couples that want to be soulmates, the remedy is found in focus!

FOCUS

Laying distractions aside, refusing to be sidetracked by them, we choose to focus on having the best marriage possible.

A magnifying glass, sunlight and a piece of paper can learn us a powerful lesson. A bit of sunlight strategically focussed through a magnifying glass creates a fire! Certainly, this lesson is true in relationships and marriage as well. Another way of explaining such concentrated intensity is what I call frontal lobe focus. The frontal lobe of the brain is largely responsible for executive planning, it helps you to focus on the topic at hand, create a plan, and then execute it.
Soulmates use frontal lobe focus.

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Soul mates practice the following:

• Keeping their mates in their minds throughout the day

• Thinking about what would please their mates

• Being considerate of their spouses, day in and day out

• Remembering special occasions

• Peppering their marriages with special events

• Knowing and living according to their mates 'love language - those special things that say - I love you

Maybe you are thinking this frontal lobe focus is sometimes a bit obsessive. Should we really have to think about our mates that often? Must we be preoccupied with our spouses? What about individuality?
Yes, soulmates demand a lot of attention. Mediocre marriages are able to exist with a modicum of attention - soulmate marriages cannot. Exceptional marriages require exceptional attention, concentration and effort. But they are well worth the effort.

Next post: paying attention. Follow the series if you have a longing to have an exceptional marriage!

Thank you for reading, have a blessed weekend!

Source: 90 Days to a fantastic marriage. Dr. David Hawkins. Tyndale House Publishers.
Images: Freepik.com

Thank you for reading, may you succeed in making your mate, a soulmate.

@hope777 & @scotty777

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