春节搓麻将衍射的思考|金晖007er

Mahjong in spring festival | Chan Jion-Hey 007er

It will have spectacular phenomenon for going home，foreigners never understand why transport during the Spring Festival so crazy.

每逢的春季那可是中国特有的归家潮，外国人都在纳闷中国的春运怎么会如此壮观？

After all they don't know the meaning for thousands and thousands of person. Too many of left-behind students and empty-nest elderly anticipate their relatives come home.

毕竟外国人不懂春节团圆对千千万万的老百姓意味着什么，当今的华夏大地有多少的留守儿童和空巢老人盼望着家人把家归。

Those young men's life always with mahjong，whereever in countryside or metropolis in Spring Festival.

归家的年轻人，无论处在农村抑或城镇，春节团聚也都少不了麻将踪影。麻将俨然成为了一种生活方式深入到百姓。

When I was a kid my parents often went to play mahjong at night just left me alone to sleep. That is why I still reject mahjong at present. That same like the most parents limited their children to play computer games.

曾经的我对麻将是那么得排斥，这得追溯到小时候爸爸妈妈总是喜欢去打麻将，把我一个人丢在暗黑的房间里睡觉。这种排斥也像家长对孩子游戏的排斥，说到底是因为你不懂它的魅力有多大。

You can imagine a picture including the whole family members play mahjong together. Others chat around the mahjong table. What a warm scene!

脑补一下，大过年一大家子的人聚在一起搓麻将，小孩老人都围绕着桌上的大神风趣般地各种调侃，也顺便把一年来的各种趣事聊上一回，到点结束男女分工一起做饭、开饭、放烟花……尽享天伦之乐。

Actually，many of people indulge in playing mahjong just for gamble. It's the totally different with last sentence link to.

可事实真的是这样吗？生活中不乏一些成年人为了打麻将而打麻将不能自拔，把过年的大部分时间都花在打麻将。这里和上段提到，通过麻将享受天伦之乐完全不占频道。

You guys are as mature.Don't you see there's something more important? You can spend time to accompanying with your family instead of playing mahjong usually.

都是成年人啊，你明明应该有更重要的事情吧？多陪伴孩子，多陪伴老人不好吗？当然这里的成年人指的是对麻将赌博不能自拔的那一类，过年打麻将简单图个开心，勿忘初心适可而止即罢。

How can you set an example for your children about moderation of gamble？Absolutely you wanna your children discipline study well and not indulge in games .

试问你这样的自我约束力，在教育你的孩子要好好学习，不沉迷游戏能做出榜样吗？

Archaism said: Every bean has its black.

古语有曰：金无足赤 ，人无完人。

Not only take good care of your children ，but yourself please.Even if that middle-aged people still have a long life. It's never too late too growth together with your children.

请善待自己的孩子，也善待自己，纵然人到中年依旧还有很长的生命，一起与孩子进化成长任何时候都为时不晚。

Home as the mildest place.

家俨然是最温暖的港湾。

You are the man should put your family responsible first.

男人一定要把家人的责任放在第一位！

Lots of person treat it as principle for making friends.

这几乎是很多人交友的基本准则！

This screenshot from my friend's expression.

上面的截图，是一位好友阐述此观点的感想。 这里面似乎存在着什么矛盾是吧？

It seems have a contradiction between friend's growth environment and healthy personality.

好友在这种环境下野蛮生长，依旧不影响健康人格的塑造。

Let's return back to notice articles from DeDao APP about wuzhihong's psychology subject，which refer to “relationship is your destiny”.

Someone's relationship with their first objection is very important for developing even change their healthy personality .

且让我们回头看看，近期在得到专栏“武志红的心理学课”提到的主题是—“关系，即命运”。

一个人和他最初的重要客体构建的关系，会内化到一个人的内心深处，成为一种内在的关系模式，这就是性格。性格，在关系中形成、展现和改变。

It's important for the earliest objection supporter，then with their friends.

早期的重要客体是抚养者，后期是一起成长的同学、好朋友。可想而知，好友在求学路上遇到可遇不可求的好伙伴。

When you meet new ones and start new relationship，you can't modified yourself until you become who you want to be.

每遇见一个人，每开始一段新的关系，都会在关系中不断修正自己，不断活出自己的的样子直至我们心中认定的那个模样。

At present，whoever you are young or old still indulge in gambling .They must miss some interested association just like —007er

老一辈抑或新一代的人儿，还对麻将对赌如此执着，肯定是没有找到一些能够支撑他们去坚持的东西，因为他们没有遇到 — 007不出局

007不出局

007er，who write an article every 7 days for 7 years，7 years later going to Antarctic with a group of person from 007er.

007er，7天写一篇写7年，7年后和一群人一起去南极。