「How to break up 2018」ZL's break up story.

ZL 是一个气质女生，大方温柔，独立主见。
而正是因为她的主见，让她男朋友的家人觉得不安定。

ZL is a beautiful girl, she is independent and with so much doable ideas.
But as she is that much independent and actively on the road of chasing personal value, his boyfriend's family feeling unsecure for their son.

ZL的男朋友也是个优秀的男孩子，是他妈妈心里永远的宝贝，他也以此自居，并这样一直持续了下去。
他很听妈妈的话，父母对于他和ZL分手的祈望也被反复告知到他，让他为难。

ZL's boyfriend is an amazing boy too, he is the baby in his mom's heart, and he accept this all the time.
He really submissive to his mom. When his parents telling him again and again about the breaking up with ZL, he feels so difficult.

而ZL知道这来自于感情局势里的外人的祈望之后，定是会想要和男朋友的家人好好沟通一番的。
等待她的，不仅仅是来自于男朋友家人的冷言，更是来自于她男友的摇摆和对于感情的不坚定。

When ZL knows the wishing of the break up from his parents, she of course want to talk about it with her boyfriend's parents.
What was waiting for her is not only the cold language of his parents, but also the doubting for the relationship from her boyfriend.

于是他们分手了。

So they break up.

以上是ZL的故事。

That's ZL's break up story.

这真是一个难受的话题 — 妈宝男。
来自于妈妈的过度疼爱和欣赏在潜移默化里把儿子的思想，灵魂，权利都统治到了一个人的标准里，儿子在这“共生关系”中处于被控制的角色。
他从小就被迫学习着如何围绕着妈妈的感觉转，这一切看起来都是如此的顺理成章。
照顾妈妈的感觉，是个一生的习惯。

It is such an uncomfortable topic - Mommy's boy.
Born in the over spoiling and admire from his mother, it make his mind, soul and power all into his mother's standard.
Son is always in the character of "in control" in this "Symbiotic relationship".
He is forcing to learn how to feel what his mom feels from the very beginning of his life, everything what happens between this "Symbiotic relationship" looks like nothing wrong.
To use his mom's standard is his habbit for a life time.

所以他告诉ZL，他更爱自己的妈妈，即便他也爱ZL。
他是个痛苦的人，因为他不明白自己对于妈妈的顺从给他带来的怨恨能够被怎样表达。
而ZL，是他痛苦的连带者。
这样禁忌的话题并不能被ZL带起，他这个和生命一样长的习惯，只有在全家的配合下才能被根治。
这的感情让ZL痛苦，让不能违背妈妈的他也痛苦。
ZL不想再用更多青春去分担解决一个家庭的问题，再加上这个家庭真的不太想解决这个问题，那分手对于他们彼此来说或许都并不是个太糟糕的选择。

So that he told ZL, he loves his mom more, even though he also loves ZL.
He is a man in pain, cause he never knows the submission to his mom can bring him hate, and he cannot express it at all.
And now ZL, is the associator of his pain.
The topic of mother and son is so hard for ZL to mention as this is a habbit of him for a life time.
This kind of pain just can be heal by his whole family together, to stop making the pain for his son of cannot reject his mom.
ZL don't want to use her young age to solve a family problem, even more, this family seems don't really see this as a problem.
Maybe a break up is really better for both of them.

我只希望天下有情人能终成眷属，
但是如果感情出了偏差，
那就用它来剖析彼此，
在下一段感情里做彼此更好的彼此！

But all I hope is "Valentine can finally become a genus".
If the relationship have a problem leads them to the end, then use it to know each other more, and use the knowledge of oneself to be the better one for the next relationship!

Gogo with a lot of love！See you tomorrow.