A Newfound Solidity | Epilogue to Psy-Fi's Sacred Island Workshop on Sex Magic (feat. Dara & Simon)

An hour after I had left the location of the workshop I felt different, a lot of things had changed in a funny way. I felt more compassionate towards my hangups than ever, I realized they were hardly hangups and that this cosmic presence with a woman is the thing that had freaked me out most of all in my years until now. The pathologic need to talk when tension rises, instead of playing with and bathing in the energetic exchange of conscious - and eventually - sexually charged energy between man and woman if the mind is kept out of the loop.

As I kept walking over the festival to go dancing I smiled differently at the ladies that came my way than I had been before. I... took more time, I wanna say. I even stopped when a marvellous lady looked at my eyes and I looked back, and far from thinking I had to "do something" or "had to smile" or anything I would just be, and find that warm place inside of me that bathes in the tension and allows it all to unfold as it will.

And guess what? She dug it endlessly. And so did her friends ;)

After a few moments I nodded at her acknowledgingly as her friends giggled at us pulling her away from me. "You two are lovely but she is already taken, sorrrrrrrrrrry..." and she smiled at me when they drew her away.

I felt... freakin' AWESOME. Here I was not trying anything, just being with her, and it accomplished what the rational-mind had always failed to accomplish: to feel solid in her initial presence when we didn't know each other yet, and allowing ample room for our energies to smell each other like two puppies would in order to see whether we dig one another. No expectations, no hiden motives.

It had become a curious funny social game instead of a frustrating task with unclear prerequisites. I felt... easy with social unease. I could see myself totally getting hooked on this type of adventurous excitement where there was only uncertainty and self-doubt before.

As I walked on around the festival I saw that something major had been shifted and that my whole approach to the other sex had been thoroughly grounded, in a novel experiential reality.

Those first 5 minutes with that lovely Spanish woman and her eyes had changed so many things inside of me - so many of my habits and fears about this initial "awkwardness" - that I felt I had discovered something major this day that wanted to be discovered and worked through.

I thanked myself endlessly for participating in the workshops as I said hi to more people, both men and women, and just kept going with the flow of life until I eventually found myself on the dancefloor with a completely new outlook on meeting people.

The overemphasis of the rational mind for these sorts of social bridges is incompatible with a true human connection. And as a rationally-minded dude that lesson has been one of the most cherished this summer for me.

The same night I knew I would want to share these experiences on my Steemit after my return and that a "mere" episode of my floor-lessons would not quite cut it here. We will however dive deeper into the topic of subtext in communication in upcoming floor lessons which I am really excited to write about. Telepathy experiments to obliterate contemporary notions of reality. But we will get to that...

So this is the story of how I truly learned to look into a woman's eyes without overthinking and to bathe in that tension to overcome all the old and deeply rooted residue of insecurity mindfucks and denial of self-love about my true strength and power.

Dara and Simon, I think I speak for all of us when I say: Thank you for this wonderful insight into the magic beneath the surface of meeting the other sex in openness and presence.

If you, my dear reader, are still here and want to find out more about the work of Dara and Simon you can check out their website daraandsimon.com for more information or even visit a workshop near you as the two are touring around the world to teach more people to be "pleasure activists" as they put it.

I realized that instead of learning anything new, what I really had learnt here was the permission to be a real man, to not need to do anything when I meet her but instead to trust in the flow of things and to play with it consciously instead of trying to get somewhere with her based on some clandestine mind-agenda.

I had often had the suspicion before but now I had experienced the difference in sexual chemistry when neither of the two 'tries anything' or to 'get something'. The connection and the presence are the essential foundation of any human interaction and for sexual matters this seemed as profound a realization as few I have been privileged to go through this summer.

So for the new degree of solidity and overcoming of deeply rooted patterns of fear and insecurity about simple presence I want to tell the world how grateful I feel for the nudges and hints I learned about at the workshops! Thank you for all you do for humanity and lots of continued success on your inspiring mission of contemporary shamanism - healing one individual at a time who is willing to work on himself and who shows up when he hears the call to work on himself. We all dug the seminars endlessly and the ripple effects will carry on for decades in our lives and immediate social interactions.

Will definitely come again when I see you guys hold another workshop somewhere on next year's festival circuit! Thanks again for checking out my series!

All parts of this series:
Pt 1 - Piercing Through The Mindfucks
Pt 2 - Eye Contact Tension Breakthroughs
Pt 3 - Communicating Preferences & Honoring Boundaries
Pt 4 - Obliterating Shame & Owning Your Body
Pt 5 - Vulnerability Among Men
Pt 6 - Feminine (En)chant(ment)s
Pt 7 - Milestones of Solidity & Bathing in Sexual Tension

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