I wonder if there are people around you who like to complain? There is a girl near me who likes to complain, named Xiaoxi. Xiaoxi is my university classmate. She has a harmless face and long slick hair swaying in the wind. By the way, such a girl should be very attractive, right? But no, the girls in the same bedroom don't like her very much.
For example, at the beginning of school, I was naturally unwilling to be exposed to the sun and rain every day in the collective military training, but I never complained to my classmates, because everyone is very hard, no one is easier than anyone. Then I got sick and went home to recuperate for a few days. After returning to school, I feel that the girls don't like to care about the creek anymore.
Once I was eating in the cafeteria, and the other three girls in the dormitory of Xiaoxi were sitting next to me. A said: "Will it be bad if we don't ask Xiaoxi to eat together?" B said: "We can't eat anymore when she comes. Later on, there may be mouse shit in the dish, and then the plate is washed. It’s not clean. I will say what dishes and what dishes to put together can cause food poisoning. Every time I eat with her, I have never finished eating."
After hearing this, I probably understand why Xiaoxi is not welcome, because she really likes to complain and complain.
Since I took the same course as Xiaoxi for physical education, she often chatted with me when we went to class together. The content of the chat is basically complaining. For example: "I envy you so much. Your father comes to pick you up every week. My father never comes to pick me up. Your boyfriend always comes to school to see you. My boyfriend never comes once a month. I am so pitiful. !"
As everyone knows, her dad did not come to pick her up because her dad manages a huge company and travels frequently. In the school days when everyone used public buses to travel, taxis were used everywhere in the stream. My boyfriend’s school is close to me, and her boyfriend’s school is not in Wuhan... People come here like a tourist, and her studies are very stressful. Every month, she is very busy carrying a large box of snacks to see her. Not easy anymore.
However, she never seemed to be aware of the happiness she had, and her eyes only focused on the missing parts of life, the perfection that no one could have. Over time, everyone no longer loves to get along with her. To make matters worse, some classmates not only felt that she was pretentious and complaining but even felt that she was showing off in disguise. It can be seen that complaining not only brings about separation but also brings misunderstanding and prejudice.
After graduation, when she opened her circle of friends, she was either complaining that her husband did not have time to spend with her, or complaining that her colleagues were difficult to get along with, and even complained that her mother-in-law was not good at cooking. In fact, there is nothing lacking in Xiaoxi's life, and it is even better than many people. But she seemed dissatisfied with everything in front of her, always grumbling and complaining.
Those who love to complain are often not really bitter, just to win the attention, love, and even sympathy of others.
There are bitterness and sweetness in life as a standard, but people who like to complain are usually only willing to taste sweetness, not willing to swallow bitterness. And when they taste the sweetness, they never appreciate the beauty of life, never share the joy of life, and never give others optimistic positive energy. They feel that they deserve it. All kinds of grievances, all kinds of complaints, all kinds of grievances started when they encountered a little bit of suffering. It seemed that the whole world should stop everything at hand, listen to his complaints, and comfort him.
Those who complained everywhere and asked for sympathy were enveloped in a huge negative energy aura, making everyone close to him feel depressed, aggrieved, and even painful. Over time, there will be something like "Do you have to let the whole world give you to your misery? Is it me that caused you to be poor? If you are unemployed, do you make sense? Is it true that you are dumped and I will take full responsibility?" Cried out in his heart. So those who are complained about will gradually move away from these people who love to complain.
Those who like to complain will probably continue to suffer.