How to change their own kind of cowardly temperament

Solve your weakness, weakness, bullying, and fear of rejection in one fell swoop
The first version of the Anti-Bullying Bible is at the end
Life is too short to give in!
I used to be a weak weakling, always thinking over everything, too concerned about others' opinions, afraid of others' evaluation of myself, out of the society to find that is not taught in school, naturally evolved into a tiger. I hope you can be a tiger too!
For those of you who want to know about my growth or "evolution," let me write about it. Looking back over 30 years of my life, I have come to the conclusion that I was cowardly and afraid from childhood to graduate school, largely because of my father. Although he has never hit me, he has beaten my sister and my mother. Even last year, my mother told me that she had been beaten by my father. This psychological shadow has made me timid and timid since I was a child. Primary school 1-2 grade long by the class of a classmate extortion for money, but also by the same village a guy chasing dozen. During middle school and college, I was not bullied because of my good grades, teachers' love and classmates' respect. Only one night, was a high-school junior, on the night lessons, I ride a bike to go home, I normal riding on the road, I suddenly thrust from next to a motorcycle car wheels from two-dimensional pressure became a three-dimensional, cycling is a middle-aged man, he made a mistake and aggressive, flank around a bunch of people at that time, there is no one to help me say a word, I a person feel very powerless,I cried and pushed the car home, afraid dad would beat me up. This psychological shadow lasted for so long that I even went out to dinner to ask the waiter to pay. I would hide in the back and encourage my wife to go. In short, you timid timid, others can see that, anyway, bullying you only good no harm, do not bully you bully who. Later, I went out of the society and began to earn money by myself without relying on my father. As a result, I had a little confidence in my psychology and began to re-examine myself, humanity and society, and re-edit my own underlying logic (refer to the previous content). Naturally, I was not afraid of things. Therefore, IF I want to have a strong heart, I must first understand myself and find the root of the disease (what you are afraid of, why you are afraid of, my father is the crux of my disease), and then apply the right medicine to the disease, and the disease will be eliminated naturally. Here's the prescription:
1- Don't be afraid of upsetting people. Don't be afraid of making trouble. Most people (99%) are soft, and most things (99%) have no consequence. Don't worry too much about your image, except that you don't take yourself too seriously! People are cheap, you do not scold him, do not threaten him, he does not take you and what you say seriously.
2- Man is a kind of animal with clothes, the world is a jungle of animals, you are strong, others will be afraid. Anyone contacts or trades with you, certainly can get what he wants from you here, think the worst of the people first (basic is right), seize his handle, leave evidence (such as all kinds of contracts, transaction records, photos, videos, recordings and so on must be preserved), seize the other side of the seven inch, he naturally.
3- To know how to safeguard their legitimate interests, do not be afraid of turning against, do not be afraid of conflict, the most afraid of conflict and turning against the party should be the other party, not you. To have a fighting spirit, every day to be full of fighting spirit, to have who provoke you are not good appearance, bad people see you naturally back away. Not that you should actually go around making trouble, but that you should do your best to protect your own interests. Just major interests never suffer losses, and really cool, never wronged themselves, perfect the wicked.
4- Get rid of what your parents told you to be a nice person, or what school taught you to be a nice person. I think the problem in our traditional culture and education, our traditional culture requires us to respect teachers, filial piety, be respectful to lead, to be a good child in school, are not allowed to speak in class to ask questions, do not allow the authorities or the strong, the majority of people have been raised as docile sheep, even in personality or behavior bad teachers, and elders or superiors,Do not dare to resist injustice, resulting in many human tragedies such as "Fang Siqi's lovelorn Paradise". What I can't figure out the most is that people who have been forced to self kill or bullied, there must be a best way, but it's just that culture or education has left these people in a state of learned helplessness. The real society is the law of the jungle that set, most people can only endure humiliation, only a small loss also calculate, this is very conducive to the bad people exploit loopholes, harvest the weak. You know what the scariest part is? During the Nanjing Massacre, a Japanese army escorted dozens of Chinese people, but none of them dared to come out to resist, it is really terrible, I think one person here shouted, the outcome may be different. I think Chinese people should be more courageous, watch less sissy, learn from men in American movies, dare to speak up, dare to shout, if you refuse to do, I think the country will be better. Now our society is now in old people, these people many selfish, greasy, bullying is afraid of hard, and moral, the principles, we young people should dare to dare to call the sun like a comrade MAO zedong did use the domineering, our country will be better, and not let the loophole of exquisite egoist to power,So if you think you are an honest and kind person, why not become a civil servant, such as Chen Xingjia and Geng Yanbo, I would like them to become a bigger official.
5- To be strong and not weak, you need to set boundaries for everyone -- couples, parents, siblings, co-workers, leaders, anyone, or institutions -- in your own legitimate core interests, and remind them when they cross those boundaries.Fight back by any means (not limited to fight back, fight, report to the police, audio and video recording, document, lawsuit). If you don't, your girlfriend may start by asking you to buy things for her, but she may end up asking you to take care of her entire salary, name her children, and be dutiful to her family. Your dad might start out asking for a little money, but eventually he'll end up asking you to buy everything, give you money regularly when he's young, or insist on moving in with you. Your neighbor may start with a little noise, and eventually grow into a daily nuisance, a shoe closet in a public space, and cigarette butts thrown at your house. What begins as a touch of your hand or flirting with you can end up being rape........ if you don't refuse Human beings are animals, and any interaction between people is essentially testing each other's strength and bottom line. If the other side is weak, you can push your luck. If the opponent is strong enough, enough is enough. Why all of them? Because in the face of interests and power temptation, family, friendship, what are unreliable, do not pay attention to defense or weak character caused by the tragedy everywhere. Often cause the greatest harm to themselves are the most familiar with their own people, so the more their side of the people draw a bottom line, can not endless concessions.
6- If you want to be strong and not weak, you have to be independent, even domineer, even unreasonable. The tiger walks alone when all sheep walk. Don't care about other people's judgment and don't be too "moral." Just look around you at all the bosses and leaders who squeeze people. Do they care about the judgment of others? Awesome people are walking on the edge of the law, look at evergrande belt brother, have morality? Does MA Jack have morals? Does Zhao WEI have morals? Do tanwu criminals have morals? These people say one thing, to brainwash others, and do another behind the scenes, dirty and horrible. When we no longer carry the psychological burden of "morality" and "feelings", it is a simple principle of reciprocity, "I will treat you as you treat me", without too much consideration for other people's feelings (and others will not consider yours, especially selfish people), it is a relief.
7- Make your money big, make your power big, have strength is really strong. Strength is truth, and this applies to all interactions between countries or between people. Imagine if China were not strong enough, Meng wanzhou would not be released. When you are strong, people will naturally come to play with you and treat you as "relatives" or "friends" and call you brothers. For example, Wang Lin and Zhao Wei, when you are weak, Father Ma does not know you. That's the real world.
8- Power comes from struggle. If we have more serious people who do not easily compromise with evil forces, the vested interests will not have the confidence to continue to do evil, and the social atmosphere will be better. It's no use just complaining, just take action.
9- Regarding the "996" which is very popular recently, in socialist China, there is someone who speaks for capitalists, who simply sits on his back and becomes a "dog for strength". When he has some power, he will also become a person he hates and try to squeeze others. Most private enterprise boss are local tyrant, clearly to extract the surplus value, workers to brainwash people grateful, all kinds of PUA, painted flowers had fly up, the enterprise not to play with him, forcing them to learn Yu Donglai such a good boss, learning fat east and this to the employees, customers and society has the positive significance of the enterprise. It's illegal to strike. It's not illegal to resign. Play a job, take how much money, how much effort, there is no need to sell integrity and beauty. I hope I can be a responsible and responsible enterprise like Donglai or Huawei in the future. It doesn't matter if it is smaller, but the three views must be positive.
10- Confidence comes from action, do a few things they did not dare to do before, more times to win battles, you will naturally not weak, I have done a tear property, tear a bad leader how to get along with a sinister leader? Recently in the hand tear three view of the father, do not wash their dirty linen in public, not here to say.
11- I want you to be strong and good! Teach you these things to protect yourself from being bullied, not to bully others. I believe that good prevails over evil, and there is no need to worry about me. I adhere to the principle that people do not attack me, if I will attack me. I am to let you learn to safeguard their normal interests, and not to rob the interests of others, generally there will be no problem. Under normal circumstances need not desperately, a little bit harder to solve the problem.
On November 8, 2021
At the request of my friends, I have compiled a shorter and more logical version called the Anti-Bullying Bible. I hope believers can read it every day, keep it in mind, and use it properly:
The Anti-Bullying Bible
1- All men are created equal and should be treated with due respect, regardless of age, sex, power, status or fame. An Ideal World
2- Humans are just animals with clothes on. In essence, human interaction is to test each other's strength and bottom line, so as to determine their own coping strategies. It is human nature to bully the weak and fear the hard. The human world is a jungle where the law of the jungle is the law of the jungle. Under the temptation of money, interests and power, affection, love and friendship may be unreliable. [Real society. Human Nature]
3- Get rid of what your parents taught you to do, get rid of what school taught you to do, get rid of Confucius' stinking hierarchy.   [Tradition. Education]
4- To seek peace through struggle is to survive peacefully; to seek peace through compromise is to perish peacefully. Talk about life and death, refuse to do. Abandon illusions and prepare for battle. [1]
5- It is no use to be patient, compromise and dream of having a good conversation when bullied. The other person will only confirm that you are a weak fool, and what you will get is more bullying. [2]
6- Most people (99%) are soft, and most things (99%) have no consequences. We should be more courageous, dare to speak out, dare to cry out, do not accept! People are cheap, you do not scold him, do not threaten him, do not beat him pain, he does not take you and what you say seriously!
7- The best time to fight bullying in its bud must be for everyone (couples, parents, children, classmates, leaders, colleagues, strangers... . ) or organizations draw a line, cross the line on the fight, never back down. [Struggle 1]
8- Not afraid of things, not afraid of offending people, always adhere to the principle, keep the bottom line. Don't be afraid of confrontation, don't be afraid of conflict, always high morale. Have the courage to break, leave, lose your job, divorce, or even sacrifice. Don't be morally kidnapped, don't be too concerned about your image, don't be too concerned about the feelings of the bully, these are not self-defeating. Use all available means, not just audio and video recordings, confrontations, fights, threats, police reports, reports, and lawsuits. [Struggle 2]
9- Do not reason with unreasonable people, do not speak conscience with the black heart, do not speak peace with those who only believe in fists, and communicate with the enemy in a language that they can understand. [Struggle 3]
10- In this jungle of the jungle, strength makes all the difference. Honest and kind people, you need to master money, position, power, weapons, fame, will, knowledge, courage and wisdom, to make yourself stronger, with stronger strength to fight back, and chairman MAO's arrogance that dares the sun and moon to change the sky to make the world clean and clear. [Struggle 4]
11- We have to fight to the maximum extent possible. In a situation of unequal strength, the best strategy is to keep the light and keep the light. I suggest you to report it anonymously. You can report it when you grow up and become independent. You can report it when you quit your job. [Struggle Strategy 1]
13- Before the fight, we should fully understand the enemy, grasp the handle, snake hit seven inches, targeted at the opponent's most afraid point to hit. [Struggle Strategy 2]
14- kind and brave people ah, when you become the strong do not bully the weak, dragon boy can not become a dragon, become a tiger but do not bully sheep! May there be no more bullying in this world and no more human tragedies caused by bullying! May the world be more human, less beast, more love, less hatred, more soul, less body! [Exhortation]
On December 25, 2021, I have learned a few words as a Christmas gift to you:
Don't try to reason with me, you can't talk to me;
Don't try to moral kidnap me, I have no morals;
Don't try to put a tall hat on me, I know I am good, don't need you to remind me;
Don't try to threaten me, I'm not afraid to die;
Don't try to lure me, I despise it;
Don't try to make me give up.