7 Day culture challenge Day 5 "Invisible Bubble"

in culture •  7 years ago  (edited)

I'm a bit behind on my culture post days. I've become mildly hooked on culture videos on YouTube where the host gives advice on what not to do in a foreign country, or travel advice for visitors that come to the U.S. A lot of them say the same thing in their advice to visitors to the U.S.:

Americans love their personal space!


Imagine an invisible bubble surrounding each person. Invade that bubble and you might be in for a confrontation.

You could be the nicest most intelligent person. A genius. A visiting dignitary. Rich and famous. But get in someone's "bubble" and all bets are off.

Ok I exaggerate, a little. In some places this isn't such a big deal. In urban cities people are more used to being crowded on the subway or sidewalk - getting bumped accidentally is usually not a big deal however I personally expect an apology even a brief acknowledgement that it was an accident. I've never lived in a big city so I'm unsure what the custom is there.

Anywhere else though you would be expected to apologize for bumping someone. Also, when standing in line do not get too close to someone. The tolerance level for this varies from region and existing cultural diversity.

And speaking of lines, line cutting is a big no-no in the U.S. Doesn't matter how old you are or how rich you are - everyone is expected to maintain the line order. At the ATM machine stand a few paces back to form the line, not directly behind the person. Same goes for the pharmacy picking up medicine. Any kind of private thing, especially involving money, give extra space.

We're germaphobes here. If you cough or sneeze please cover your mouth. If you don't, someone might call you out on that and reprimand you.
Remember this lady?

I wanna say this is a very animal and territorial kind of reaction you are courting if you don't "respect the bubble." It's like rolling the dice. Some people get physically very upset about it and might blow a gasket, others don't care.

You can fix it by just saying "I'm sorry, that was an accident" or "Pardon me, didn't mean that." In 90% of cases you will be forgiven and no harm done.

The other 10% well unfortunately you have encountered someone who is having a bad day and probably looking to unload their ire.

Some people get a "pass" on respecting the bubble and that would be the very old and the very young. I rarely see an old person getting in people's bubble but they do try to cut the line sometimes. It's polite to offer to let them cut if they only have a few items but you will find a lot of humor based stories about how this act of kindness can go awry as the elderly are notorious for taking a long time to check out.

Supposedly, We are Loud


I learned from a lot of YouTube videos from non-Americans that apparently we are loud. I never thought of myself as particularly loud in volume but I definitely can see how that is perceived especially as speech varies from regions here.

This lady does a good overview on accents


Yeah, some of them sound a bit loud to me.
I guess we have no problem invading people's auditory bubbles haha

What are your customs regarding space?
Are they the same or different?

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  ·  7 years ago (edited)

I feel like you would be a fan of the personal space show!

It is both a big thing and not at all a thing here. I love my personal space bubble, but it gets stepped on most days, and I tend to just freak out internally and not say anything lol

It is a given that you have to sacrifice your personal space and actually maintain bodily contact with strangers on public transport (I am guessing that is the same there?)

I never realized America was so into proper queue etiquette. It is a big thing here. You should wait in an orderly line, leaving a good space bubble between you and the person ahead of you. Now here, elderly people don't really try to cut queues or anything, but it is generally the done thing to let anyone with just a couple of items just to the head of the line in a super market. People will sometimes ask, if they are only getting one thing, and are in a rush, but like all british customs, you generally should start with an apology lol - cos we get jokes here about the british and queuing, I had (very wrongly) assumed other countries weren't as eager with it.

On invisible bubbles, let me introduce to you, the magical, wonderful, Unreality Bubble that I spend a lot of my life in! It generally forms around your house and garden, (or where ever you are sequestered) and the world beyond your bubble ceases to exist. Problems beyond the bubble cease to matter oh and chocolate there contains anti-calories ;)

Oh and just seen the notification from dustsweeper - thank you so much <3 - I didn't realize you could do it for someone else!

HAHA that was a funny clip it surely made my morning. I think I'll just rip my skin off right now even! ;)

The line/queue etiquette really varies here from region to region. But honestly we don't have situations where the lines are unbearable at least regularly.

The government services are always horrible, like the DMV (where you get your driving license and car registration taken care of) is just awful. You can make an appointment which makes that particular thing a little better but it's still not great.

Any kind of government thing there can be a long wait but mostly there's a number system with a ticket which eliminates line cutting.

There can be a line during the lunch rush but service is usually pretty quick so people do not get that irate (driving is a different matter with lots of road rage). Most lunch focused restaurants cater to this rush crowd and have a fast system worked out.

It's been a long time since I've seen someone actually try to cut the line. I think the last time I saw was an elderly Asian woman, which I heard line cutting is permissible in Korea for the elderly, but she quickly got shut down from the secretary at the desk and told her "ma'am get back to the line!" lol

I say "sorry" more than a lot of people as well and this is where I think some of our manners are similar. I grew up in the southern states where manners and politeness are very important. I've lived in California a long time and sometimes people have commented to me they think I'm too polite. Sometimes they think I'm insincere, but that's not so. Just how I was brought up. One of my first friends at my job when I moved out here was from London (Putney) and she and I got along really well I think in part because we had this bond of being aware of others and politeness.

But I've changed too... living in a crowded (sub)urban area, it whittles away things like that. And also I have a problem with my "social filter" that gets worse the older I get and my mouth runs away with me, and insert foot. A lot.

Edit to add: While I consider myself polite I'm certainly not a doormat, and I do often voice unpopular opinions and speak up. Definitely not timid!

Mmmmmmm chocolate... sounds good to me right about now :)

You're welcome re: dustsweeper! Here's the info on that
https://steemit.com/community/@danielsaori/dustsweeper-update-send-gifts-to-users

Far out in Spain its the opposite it feels like people are right up in your face! I didnt like it at first but just got used to it.

I hope they are at least smiling!

Yeah ! I dont think they are even even aware of peoples personal space