I have seen many people who are distressed by a little bit of things, sleepless at night, irritable and irritable, and even have some extreme behaviors, such as a friend of mine.
I have a friend who has a very high degree and is a PhD in 1985, majoring in communication technology. His professional ability is naturally not mentioned, but his career path is very bumpy.
It stands to reason that with his abilities, he can be the head of the department in two years at most, but after only half a year, he was fired by the company. Once I had a meal, I asked him why he was fired. He drank a sip. He frowned and said that he was very irritable every day.
I was very confused, so I asked him, why are you irritable?
The character is not bad, and the work attitude is good, logically speaking, he should be a very popular person in the workplace.
Later, he told me that he was irritable because of many things. For example, when he was hit while walking to work in the morning, he would be very irritable, and he might be in poor condition all morning; a colleague made a mistake at work and affected him, but He didn't apologize, and he would be upset even for a week; the leader criticized him and later apologized to him privately, but he was very mad.
I asked him, have you thought about how to solve it?
He didn't speak, but drank dullly. Later, I wanted to share my experience with him, but he was not interested.
After three months, his problem was solved by one of my leaders—the leader and we were going to have a meal together. Before the meal, the leader and his wife had a big quarrel. When we were embarrassed by the side, it was time for dinner. When it was time, the leader suddenly smiled, pulled his wife, and said with a smile, go, baby, go to dinner.
His wife smiled and left. After we finished our meal together, the two of them said to continue? As a result, the quarrel began again.
I have forgotten everything afterwards. I only remember that the leader said two things to us: People, be chic, what is chic? Turn around and put it down, it is chic.
After speaking, I told my friend that if there is a problem, either let it go or communicate. If the problem is not solved, it will be a bomb in your heart, and even the best people will be blown to pieces.
Later, my friend was quiet for a while and returned to the previous company. Of course, he no longer had that problem at this time, so it only took a year and a half before he became the vice president.
This incident made me understand that sometimes what limits us is really not our ability, but our mind.