Cheat Sheet for Shy and Indecisive Guys

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Even the most masculine men can be shy and indecisive at the beginning of relationships. That is the case with guys that want to start serious relationships but not just a one-time thing. So, why are guys so indecisive? 

It often happens that guys face a fear of rejection when trying to impress their crush. This fear makes them refrain from actions and makes them appear extremely indecisive. When it comes to love, guys are as vulnerable as girls. With attractive girls, guys tend to act carefully, prudently, gradually scaling down the distance. Some guys need more time to relax which is fine. 

Nowadays, it is okay for women to take the initiative on their own. Thus shy guys realize they have a chance with their crush and become ready to take steps forward in relationships much faster. Most shy guys act indecisively because of their background. Breakups suck and the loss of relationships is a painful experience for all human beings, regardless of gender. 

To become more confident you need to know what men girls like more:

So what kind of men girls like more?

1. Loyal. Any girl wants to be THE ONE for her guy. They don't appreciate gestures of affection towards other girls. So, you shouldn't flirt with other girls to appear loyal and promising. 

2. Thoughtful. Even though you are an extremely busy guy that works 24/7, you need to pay attention to your partner, stay involved with her life, make nice presents and surprises to make her feel special. 

3. Generous. Grown girls love prosperous men. She needs to feel your validity as a breadwinner to consider you in the role of a husband and father. 

4. Reliable. It is important for any girl to feel safe by her man's side. So, to meet your lady's heart, be ready to take care of her life issues, take responsibility, and keep her safe during your relationships even at the very beginning of it. 

How to ask a girl out?

  • Here is the thing: you don't need to ask her out but invite her. Don't ask her if she wants to go out with you but tell her something like "I want to take you to one lovely place for dinner. Let me know when it is good for you." - it sounds masculine and sexy. 

  • Don't use the "date" word. The date sounds too obliging and may scare her off. Use words like walk, dinner, picnic, meeting, etc. She will see your romantic intentions from your eyes.

  • Be specific. Pick a time and a place in advance so your girl knows you are a serious guy.

  • Be polite. There is no need to show off your brutality. It is much better to treat your crush with courtesy to win her favor. 

  • Be patient. Some girls need more time to say yes to a guy even when it comes to a casual date. Don't push her to give you the answer straight away and let her process your invitation first. 

Here is a nice article on how to ask a girl out.

Don’t spend a fortune on your first date but go for budget date ideas:

A date may cost $0 and it may cost $1000. It really depends. Here are the nice stats: cost of a date in different states and top 10 budget dating ideas.

1. Coffee dates are one of the best options when it comes to dating on a budget. Usually, tables in coffee places are quite small so you get an opportunity to stay very close to your girl. That helps to establish an intimate atmosphere even though you meet in a public place. 

2. A movie date is a typical idea that is appropriate for a date with a girl that you barely know. A freshly watched movie is an excellent topic to discuss for two people that don't know each other well. Apart from that, you can close up using the film watching, hold hands when exciting plot twists take place, etc. 

3. A walk in a park is a lovely option for a time when the weather is fine. You can chill near a lake, feed ducks, have a takeaway coffee, or set up a picnic with fresh fruit and appetizers. 

4. A swimming pool session is not only an excellent opportunity for you to see her half-naked but also a chance to have fun with your crush on waterslides and set up a romantic yet entertaining atmosphere for your date. 

Online dating is one of the most appropriate tools for shy and indecisive guys to become more confident.

Is online dating safe? 

So, is online dating safe? Well, it depends on the platform that you choose for an online dating commitment. There are lots of online dating resources available so it is easy to get confused and pick not the most reputable platform for your dating profile placement. 

Use one of the best dating sites for online meetings that will make you feel secure.

VictoriaClub is an entertaining dating platform that is known for its stylish design and professional team behind it. On this website, you will find hundreds of thousands of profiles of attractive women from all over the world. 

The Golden Bride website was developed more than 10 years ago for people that want to create serious relationships by means of online dating, so you should give it a try if the possibility of a further marriage doesn’t scare you. 

eHarmony website is the best online dating platform for the audience on budget as it offers free registration opportunities and provides access to a huge number of dating profiles with filters for the most precise selection of decent candidates. 

There are also some special dating sites for seniors over 60. They connect mature single people looking for a life partner.

There is a list of things you need to do on a first date with your crush - whether online or not - to make her fall in love with you:

  1. Be there on time. Tardiness can make things frustrated so it is not the best thing to start the first date with, that’s for sure.
  2. A sincere interest in your girlfriend’s life, her hobbies, career, family, and other aspects of her being will help her to feel safe and welcomed by your side. 
  3. Good manners and zero intimate questions and hints are a must for a first date. 
  4. Funny tanks and jokes but not sarcasm are also good for a first date and helps to build friendship between you as an excellent basis for your further romantic relationship. 
  5. Focus on her. Act like she is the one girl that exists for you in this world. That will make her feel special and desired.
  6. Confidence in continued relationships will make your crush craving for a next date with you even more. 

Even when dating someone for some time an indecisiveness can take place. It often happens when relationships come undone and a guy is afraid to make it even worse. For those who feel stuck in unhappy and non-developing relationships, we highly recommend experimenting with ways of interaction with the partner. Check out unicorn dating as one of the most trendy and favorite dating formats. 

What is a unicorn in dating?

Unicorn dating is a mixture of social freedom and ethics. It is a type of polyamory when a bisexual girl interacts with a couple and everyone is fine with that, moreover, they enjoy the company of each other, respect personal boundaries, and have an exciting sexual life. It is called unicorn dating for its rarity, beauty, and singularity. 

Relationships require decisiveness at every stage of it so you need to train yourself to be the best and confident self to have that courage and take actions for building/improving relationships with your crush.

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