To all married and singles.

A group of Cameroonian husbands gathered at a conference on "How to live in a loving relationship with their wife". The men were asked, "How many of you love your wife ?" All the men raised their hands. Then they were asked, "When was the last time you told your wife you loved her ?" Some men answered today, some yesterday, majority didn’t remember.
The men were then told to take their cell phones and send the following text to their respective wife: I love you, sweetheart. Then the men were asked to exchange phones so one can read the other wife's response to the love message.. here are some of the replies:

1. Have you impregnated someone again?
2. That was then, not now.
3. You want to borrow money?
4. What did you do again? I won’t forgive you this time!
5. Meaning?
6. Is that a new song?
7. Am I dreaming!
8. If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, you will die today!
9. You this man! I asked you to stop drinking!
10. Who is this?

Funny right? Yeah, the replies sounds funny but come to think of it, When was the last time you showed love to your partner?
Some marriages are broken today because some couples have forgotten their Ancient Land Mark, the first love they shared, How lovely their partner used to be,
how they can't even leave in a day without sharing lovely pleasantries.
Do you still love your wife/husband?
When was the last time you looked into his/her eyes and say "Honey I Love You"
Do you still call him/her those sweet names?
Do you still give him/her your time?
When was the last time you bought a gift for your partner?
Why not bring back the old Love you had for your partner and see everything turn around for good?
Marriage is not a game, it's not easy but it's beautiful. You will fight and argue, this is normal because both of you came from different
backgrounds, different homes
and you both were raised by
different parents, beliefs and morals. So you cannot expect that everything you say will be accepted by your spouse without their opinion being tendered first.
So before you give up, think back to the good times and to what brought you together in the first place.

10 Strategies to Help Solve Your Marriage Problems.

1. Surround yourselves with people in healthy relationships.
   Some of those negative patterns may have involved friends. Surround yourself with people who value marriage and where there’s widespread support for making yours work.

2. Choose to love.
   Love may have come easy when it was brand new. Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. Choice is an act of maturity and it has a much better track record than emotion left to make its way on its own.

3. Act as if your spouse’s happiness is more important than your own.
   Putting our spouse first nurtures trust, gratitude, generosity, and affection. It can also lead to physical intimacy.

4. Put the relationship ahead of everything, including your children.
   It’s unfortunate, but time has a way of eating away at our priorities. “You’re the most important thing in my life” gives way to “my work… the family business…the children… my ageing parents… even golf, football or drinking…” Marriages don’t work well when our partner plays second fiddle to anything – even the children. It’s a fact – the happiest kids are those with parents who love one-another best.

5. Start over from scratch.
   Ask her out. Make sure you remember why you did the first time and build from there. When did you last talk for hours, hold hands at a movie, or give her a kiss when she wasn’t expecting it? Get silly about one-another. If you don’t feel like it, do it anyway- then you’ll remember why.

6. Stop taking one-another for granted.
   Say “thank you” for that cup of coffee. Celebrate obscure anniversaries. Tell her how much it means to you that she cooks a great meal – or vice versa. Notice the haircut. Ask her out. Clean her car. Pay attention to the little things and act like someone who values the relationship.

7. Pray for your spouse.
   Chances are you launched your marriage with both promises and prayers. Pray for your spouse, and ask for guidance as you pledge to make the kind of effort that simply won’t float without turning to God every day.

8. Get counselling.
   You say you can’t afford it? Believe us, it’s cheaper than divorce. Most counselling simply involves a few sessions to get the communication flowing again. For guys, a willingness to talk in that context sends a huge, positive message to your spouse.

9. Follow the counselling with an action plan.
   Just like a personal fitness program, counselling comes with homework and an action plan over time. Draw up the plan, ask friends you trust to help hold you accountable, then follow through. When both spouses take responsibility, anything is possible.

10. Change the patterns.
    Do you always come home angry? Then stop the car a block away and pray about it first or do whatever else it takes to change your attitude. Does she always nag you when you leave dirty clothes on the floor? Try getting changed in a different room and initiate a new reflex. Do you always fight about discipline? Try agreeing with her decisions and supporting her 100% – you may find the kids act better because you’re not fighting.