He leaned over, stroked her beautiful sun kissed auburn hair, and pressed his lips tenderly against her cheek. He gazed longingly at the freckle that sat atop her plump upper lip, just to the right. Adam loved the freckle that rode up her smile as if on a roller coaster ride, but she wasn't smiling today. He whispered in her ear, " I'm so sorry my love." Adam then reached his arms up above his head grabbed the lid of Eve's coffin and closed it. "I see your deciding on the closed casket option then sir?" asked the Funeral home guy. "You did a lovely job really she looks exquisite" Adam said. "That fall down the stairs broke so many bones in her face tho, I'm afraid it just isn't my Eve anymore, I'd rather no one remembered, her like this."
Oh yes, I know Eve ruins it all in the bible but that's fact, and this is my fictional factual story.... different Adam and Eve same tricky serpent. I hope your catching on because the devil is in the details. How about some stats shall we: More than 10 million people per year suffer from domestic violence and over 70% of all murders YES 70% involve an intimate partner. Shocking to know "Love" can be deadly. Depression can be massively intensified and triggered by domestic violence, abuse ( emotional, physical, verbal, mental) and in fact even living among the bitter, battered, abused, or bickering two-some (or in these days 3/4/5 or more some) even if your not directly apart of the abuse just being in the midst of it can cause anxiety and depression.
ABUSE IS NOT LOVE. There should never be a next time when it comes to physical abuse, many people in these relationships don't stay with the abuser because they love them. They stay out of fear, depression, co-dependency and low self-esteem. The abuser stays to control, manipulate, and for selfish gain. there is no "love" on either side of this coin. People usually get uncomfortable at the "Both People can be healed" part of the council simply because everyone usually has their rocks and crosses out for.... well any crime these days. As a counselor my job is to believe in the rehabilitation process for ALL. Indeed I am a believer. While I also believe anyone in an abusive relationship first needs to be in a safe space in order to heal! When a victim and a victimizer find each other it's not love that has illuminated the darkened path their on but instead something much more sinister, because Love has nothing to do with abuse they have no fellowship with one another. You cannot heal from the depression and anxiety of an abusive relationship until you are out of that toxic environment all together. You have to want to be a Victor and not a victim or a victimizer anymore. Anyone looking to heal can heal.
Nope still no magic pill, but I do BELIEVE there is a life of cotton candy, sunshine, and rainbows ahead for you SEEKERS!
BECAUSE, SEEK AND YOU SHALL FIND...
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