To respond to the child in a situation means that meet its strong emotional behavior with your strong emotional response. They scream, so you enter into conversation with shouting.
On the other hand, when the approaches to empathy, that allows your child to express more emotions, ideas and feelings without being criticized feel ashamed or guilty. If your child feels upset because something did not seem fair, leave it and express empathy.
No need to wonder what to explain or attempt to solve the problem.
Yes, it is not easy.
Quite a difficult concept for many parents. Respond with empathy at first glance may seem inefficient, passive or too tolerant. But in the long run will pay off fantastically.
Your children will learn that it is safe to express their thoughts and feelings, you have confidence that you will be able to translate them in the larger emotional storms, and you will feel less stress than the instant you intervene in various situations.
Here are some examples to start with you can try to get used to the idea:
Instead: " Stop crying now! " Try: " Upset, you want a hug? "
Instead: " If they did not stop fighting, turn the car and go back home! " Try: " Stop for a moment. When the car gets quiet, we will go again. "
Instead of: " Oh, nooo! Again you spilled sokaaa! " Optitayte: " Oops, let's now take the mop and clean this mess. "
Instead: " Yes, it's not fair. That's life. Muster. " Try: " I know you're upset about my decision. "
Instead: " Another threesome? What's wrong? " Try: " It seems that the situation in mathematics is dramatic. What can I do to help? "
Instead of: " Do not call me, little lady! " Try: " Please, speak calmly when you want something. "
Instead: " Stop to deal with you! " Try: " I am angry now. I'll go out for a walk to calm down''
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