DISCREET
We unintentionally leave clues that communicate our thought on certain actions by others towards us, physical or emotional pain, disappointments and of course joyous occurrences. So someone whom you spend time together can tell when you are happy and when you just had a bad day, a heartbreak and any other disappointment. A child tells you he is hungry by crying not really saying it with his mouth.
Now, this is quite challenging in the sense that you don't want people to know all is not really going to plan but they just get to guess all is not well and some persons are so good at it especially those melancholic folks. This is one case scenario. The other group of people go on literally screaming to everybody how they are yet to get a good job, get into a relationship or how bad their relationship is, get married, gain admission and meet their goals in life. Some say it audibly, others don't but they deliberately leave clues in the way they dress, carry themselves or talk, so much so that a blind man can see and the deaf can hear that it is not working.
Guys, you have got to man up; be discreet! To be discreet is to leave very little for people to know about you. It is living in such a way as not to draw attention or show anger. A sizeable percentage of people you tell your predicaments only pity you and make you feel they care. So what can attracting pity do to ameliorate your plight? Be discreet!
The man that has a job probably needs a car, a wife, a child or all three, yet he still smile outside and get his suit ready to go to work as if all is perfect. Don't make a big deal out of your joblessness.
The couple you so envy because their pictures are all over their facebook walls still quarrel and have other challenges; some are even childless and desire to have what your relationship can boast of in abundance. They are only being discreet, you too be discreet. Sit down with your partner and make things work; stop drawing everybody into your predicament. Truth is they don't care or if they do, very few do.
The husband or fiancee may be a billionaire, intelligent, popular and handsome but he doesn't spend time enough with her and while she drives inside the latest jeep alone in a tinted glass she sees your man who is working hard to make ends meet still make out time to hold your hands and walk in the street, laughing and kissing. She wishes she were in your stead but she won't say it to you because she is discreet. You too when your man has no goat for the easter celebration, kill the fish and don't talk him down. At least you killed something. Be discreet!
Your parents don't own a house in Banana Island, appreciate the one they have in the village and don't talk them down. He paid your fees through secondary school but can't afford university education, don't discuss his poverty among your friends and how useless he is. Be discreet!
Stop going around with your challenges written all over your face, published on your clothes and advertised through your shoes. Clean up and be discreet. Don't push the helper you are praying for because you look like someone who he is scared will take too much to help.
You should talk about your challenges to trusted allies but don't carry it all over your face and publish it on facebook or other social media platforms as if Jesus is on your friend list. Be discreet!
But when you get into your closest to pray and approach the Holy of Holies, a path forged by the death and resurrection of Christ, don't be discreet; say it all.
I'm Orishtimothy and I believe in discussing my challenges with some persons but not with everybody. I don't want to be pitied.
Thanks for your time!!!!
