Pornographies Impact? #discussion

As a parent...my kids are getting to the point where we are starting to talk about sex. Sobering, daunting, wanting to explain it 'correct' or hit the age appropriate level...ridiculous amounts of insecurity are seemingly swirling about my wife and I...you know its 'the talk'...

We all have been through it at some point, either we learned about it from a parent, some magazine or video, a friend in 5th grade or even health class in school. Our brains in hyper development mode were fascinated by the reality of sex. How it works, why it works, curiosity raging. We all have incredibly dynamic experiences. The older you are, chances are the better your experience was.

Again -

The older you are, the better your experience learning about this was

Statistics around the sexual reality are not encouraging. According to http://chauciesplace.org/child-sexual-abuse-statistics
-1 out of every 4 girls is sexually abused
-1 out of every 6 boys is sexually abused
-1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the internet.
-Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.
-The median age for reported child abuse is 9 years old.
-85% of child abuse victims never report their abuse.
-Nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are children under 12.
-More than 90% of abusers are people children know, love and trust.
-30-40% of victims are abused by a family member.
-50% are abused by someone outside of the family whom they know and trust.
-Evidence that a child has been sexually abused is not always obvious, and many children do not report that they have been abused.
-Young victims may not recognize their victimization as sexual abuse.
-Nearly 70% of child sex offenders have between 1 and 9 victims…at least 20% have 10 to 40 victims.

The statistics of sexually active minors has not actually increased in society since around 1991. It has hovered right around 41% according to https://www.childtrends.org/indicators/sexually-active-teens/

Which leaves the question what exactly has caused the increase in sexual abuse?

Get on the internet and look up any pop music video from 1991 and then from 2017. Tell me the differences.
Look up a few commercials from 1991, then look at a few commercials from 2017. Tell me the difference.

I believe the rise in sexual abuse is largely correlated with the increased sexualization in our society, and the intake in pornography. It's creating a distorted view of sex, especially in young people who are subconsciously taking on these expectations of what sex is and is not. Its building ridiculous pressure on most girls having to 'perform sex', and having a castrating effect on most boys seeing girls as 'sexual objects'. Really removing any really intimate connection of real love. Sex works best when two selfless partners are engaged...

Here is another article I read that was a bit sobering...
http://fightthenewdrug.org/sex-before-kissing-15-year-old-girls-dealing-with-boys/

What are your thoughts on the impacts of pornography and the rise of sexual violence? If you engage in the discussion would love to know your status in life i.e. parent, single, teen, grandparent etc...

thanks for engaging!