我见过这样的一个可怜人，就是安陵容这种，她的朋友请客吃饭，心疼她，关心她，尊重她，遇到欺负她的人，她总是低声下气，习以为常。无力反抗多人嘲笑，也能好好活着。然而好笑的事，对好的朋友，却成了她最愤怒的仇人。
这就是心理学中“受助者恶意”的典型案例，拿出来当课件都不用调整。觉得她没什么了不起，觉得她的请客，不过是在显摆，觉得她的关心，其实是在讽刺她，跟《甄嬛传》里的安陵容一模一样，面对华妃，安陵容始终不敢，哪怕正面刚看一眼，但对甄嬛，无时不刻觉得是自己委屈受气。
所以我觉得的善良也得对和脑回路起码正常的善良，不然就是没有回报，甚至找麻烦。
这是我的见到过这种情况之后的见解，也欢迎大家各抒己见
(I have seen such a poor person, that is, An Lingrong. Her friends invited to dinner, distressed her, care about her, respect her, and meet someone who bully her. She always whispered and used to it. Unable to resist many people laughing, and can live well. However, the funny things, a good friend, became her most angry enemy.
This is a typical case of "malicious" in psychology. It does not need to be adjusted as a courseware. I think she is fine, and she feels that her invitation is just showing. She feels that her care is actually ridiculing her. It is exactly the same as An Lingrong in "Zhen Huan Biography". In the face of Hua Fei, An Lingrong never dares to. Even if you just glanced on the front, he always felt wronged and exhaled all the time to Zhen Ye.
Therefore, I think the kindness has to be at least normal for He and the brain circuit, otherwise there is no return or even trouble.
This is my opinion after seeing this situation, and everyone is welcome to express their opinions.)
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