What this means is your personal choices my dear.
Sorry for your loss but Life as it has been given us is for us to make right decisions only that will be pleasing to God only - anything aside that is void...
In this statement 100% our decision makes us to understand that Life has a way of making us achieve the purpose which we are brought unto this earth if only we have the right decision or we make and take the right decision -
So therefore Life is 100% our personal decision what we do and what we won't do -
For no man is inevitable to death - it can come at any given point in time - This is what prompt us that every personal decisions we have to make in fact every decision of our life is in our hands until death comes... Death is the only decision we don't have to make make -
If this is clear to you please reply me -