All friends, not all the nurturing and education of our children runs smoothly. It is very human, because all things in this world can not be as perfect as we want. But despair again giving up facing problems arise in child care certainly we never do.
In addition to facing child's obstinacy, lazy to learn and maybe lazy to worship, one that makes parents to be upset the level of the rainbow is when children begin school strike. This is not just happening there, there and far, but diseputaran where I live, even happened to my middle child, which could make me shock for a while. It was unexpected that in the end we had a difficult turn in parenting.
But Alhamdulillah we finally got up to immediately organize the situation, because the child was a dipesantren, until the affairs are not so easy. Now the middle has started to study elsewhere, still in religious school with a proud achievement. How to solve it? Try the following ways:
Do not directly Angry let alone punish the child
If we do this, of course the child gets scared and becomes more and more so does not want to go to school. The best thing to do is to ask gently and not in a loud tone, for being angry. If the child is crying, stop and wait until he is calm.
Find the main issue, just discuss with the child what he wants. If parents have to go to school to finish, then get it done through the homeroom teacher and the principal.
Confirm the child if the problem will soon pass
Of course this belief is not just a promise. If the child is afraid of the teacher who often scolds him, then find a way out with a "win-win solution", because if the teacher directly reprimanded the wrong way, then the opposite happens, the relationship with children will not improve.
If you need a parent to apologize for the child's mistakes and ask for a way out of this together, as well as the problem with his friend. Do not let the problem drag on because it will interfere with the comfort and learning process of children.
Tell the child, if we fulfill his desire, then he must be consequent
If the child simply does not want to go back to school, do not be forced, give her time to think while still given the best advice what the consequences if the child is still not in school, but this is timed, because too long to let the child at home will be fatal! Give understanding to the child if they have to move to school with a note: must learn earnestly and prove if the child is consistent with his choice, and should not strike again. If there is a problem of ambushing again it will have to complete it, not avoid.
Cooperation with husband and do not solve this problem by yourself
Because this will prove if we can solidly solve the problem together with the couple. It would be unbelievable if this amount of merit was solved without consultation with the husband. Two heads, it would be better than we decide something alone that is not necessarily a good result, and even we can be blamed by the couple.
children should be invited to the Orphanage, shelter house street children
In addition to donating to them, the child is expected to be touched by the condition of the children in the orphanage or shelter home where the wishes of their school are large but the cost is imposed or not get complete affection from parents, until empathy and sympathy are expected to grow from the soul of the child. This life lesson is so important that the child is expected to be aware of his mistakes for school strike.
Create a child, family specifically to pray
If we ask specifically for the child, other family members to participate in this prayer, it is hoped that the child will realize if the problem is no longer a personal issue but also a family matter, and it also shows the concern of all family members to him.
Ask the whole family to support it
The support of the closest people is the greatest weapon for the child to rise from adversity. Conversely, if they are blaming and blaming, then the child will become more depressed and still strike the school.
Cook community right for children
Often children are affected by their non-positive playmates. This is very dangerous if we let it stand. People have the right to forbid children when they are only doing unpostic work after school, sometimes just kongkow-kongkow in the mall, roadside or online game place.
Communicate by searching with the most favorite community of children, such as reptile lovers, like assembling robots, painting, futsal, science and mathematics, karate, and many others. The right community will make the child excel and no longer affected by negative friends.
Fix the way of communication with children
One of the things that make the problem protracted in children is how to communicate with the child's parents. For that before we are late we first instrospeksi how our personal relationship with children. Communication is one of the best weapons in shaping the character of a child; to be a tough, smart, not easily give up the problem and become a topnotch child who does not trouble parents and others.
For that ummi friend, do not be so bad when the child starts school strike. It would be very serious if she really did not want to continue her studies, as my neighbors did. Our role is the greatest in shaping the character of the child. Want to be whatever they are, actually it is up to us. May be useful.