It is said that marriage is a practice.
In this world, some people yearn for marriage, some people withdraw from marriage, some people live marriage as they want, and some people live marriage into purgatory on earth.
I have to say that different ways create different marriages.
No one hopes that their marriage will be in pain at the beginning, and they all want to live a good life for each other, but the reality is that many people have a bad life and cannot live without it.
Many people are patient for the children and the family, but such a marriage will not last long after all. Any good marriage should be built on the basis of getting along well, so as to be happy.
Therefore, the key to measuring marriage lies in these two words: comfort.
Get along well to go on better
The two people chose to be together. At first, they were rushing to the good. They both hoped that each other could be together comfortably, without too many contradictions, and to understand better.
But some people gradually get lost as soon as they enter marriage, want more and more, and constantly change each other to become what they like.
In fact, marriage is never about satisfying one's own desires, but about getting better together and being yourself.
If marriage makes a person what he doesn't want to be, then he has lost his balance.
You must know that everyone is an independent individual with his own temperament and preferences. The more you love someone, the more you understand and tolerate, instead of kidnapping by the morality of love and fate.
In this world, no one is perfect. They have their own needs and ideas. You cannot sacrifice yourself to satisfy your heart because the other person loves you. This is not love.
A truly good marriage is never about treating others with high standards, but about learning from each other. Only by maintaining a harmonious and comfortable state with each other can we go on better.
Get along well, so you can better enjoy this state
In our lifetime, we will meet many people, but most people will only be with the person who gets along well, because there is no pressure and will be immersed in this state.
Only a person who completely puts himself aside and is at ease with you will he be willing to entrust himself to you.
If it is a marriage that makes her feel pressured or even disgusted, then the other party will only want to escape.
Marriage is never enough to live well by yourself, but to pay more attention to each other's feelings and maintain a comfortable state with each other in order to go on for a long time.
If you pin all your hopes on the other party, then the other party will reject it.
A good marriage is an individual who remains independent, does not completely depend on each other, and advances and retreats together with each other. At any time, you have to become a better version of yourself before you have enough confidence to resist marriage.
If they don't have the ability to live with each other, they will naturally not get along well. They will only get into trouble because of all kinds of trivial matters and pressure, let alone enjoy this state.
Depend on each other, but grow up separately, the other side will enjoy and like this state.
Get along well, you can have the best life
At the very least, in any period of marriage and life, it should be maintained in a gentle state, without causing pressure and revulsion to the other party. Only when you get along well will the other person enjoy this kind of life.
Marriage needs to be managed, not inherently beautiful.
No one's marriage is harmonious at the beginning, and may experience many setbacks in the process, but in the end it depends on how to maintain each other.
Some people’s marriages are dull, but still beautiful, while others are vigorous and still can’t make it to the end.
Marriage is more about how the other person treats each other. Only by maintaining a comfortable state can we have a better life.
If in a marriage, each other does their own things, completely disregarding each other's feelings, and does not assume responsibility, as if the marriage has become a person's business, such a marriage will be out of balance.
Marriage is a matter for two people. It requires the efforts and dedication of both parties. No matter how beautiful love is, it must face the test of real life. If you know how to cherish each other and try to maintain a comfortable state, the marriage will become more and more harmonious.
Summarize:
I have seen a lot of people’s marriages. Most people dislike each other while living together in groups.
But a good marriage is more about understanding each other, willing to manage it with heart, and maintaining a comfortable state with each other, the marriage will become more and more happier.