Love is always subtle.
Although there is never a standard answer, although there is never a uniform caliber.
But it can transcend skin color, language, and age and bring people similar feelings.
When it comes, the throbbing seems to come. Even if it is snowing heavily, it will still make people feel warm and beautiful.
When it is gone, the sun seems to be gone. Even if the sun is shining brightly, heartbreak and helplessness will still arise spontaneously.
Especially when it slowly disappears, it always makes people feel sad.
Because, you can feel that the care you once had has turned into the foolhardy now, and the carelessness you used to have turned into the perfunctory now.
When someone doesn't love you anymore, the most cruel expression is these two words: casually.
"Whatever" is the beginning of perfunctory
I have seen such a short video.
The girl and her boyfriend were preparing to get married. She brought a box of wedding candies and hoped that the other party could help pack them.
Unexpectedly, my boyfriend said, it’s okay to just pretend to be “casual”, and it’s so flashy, how long do you have to pretend?
Then, the girl asked her boyfriend to choose an invitation.
The other person said, don’t these things all look the same? Just pick one "at random", I don't understand.
As a result, the girl suddenly broke out.
She pointed out that from the beginning of the wedding preparations, her boyfriend was very "casual" about everything, from the wedding venue to the invitations and wedding candies, and he was embarrassed by everything. Was she getting married to him?
The girl began to question, since the other party was so indifferent, it didn't matter whether the marriage ended or not.
Hearing such a voice, the boy still looked nonchalant and said, "Whatever you think."
Although painful and sad, the girl still chose to break up.
A casual sentence can turn a wedding into a breakup, and a groom into an ex.
But it's not because girls are busy.
But girls know that in the adult world, casualness is the beginning of perfunctory.
When a person slowly starts to deal with you, he is already ready to retreat.
If you insist on exchanging sincerity for sincerity, you may only get a cold heart in the end.
Don't reach out for gifts or love. What you take the initiative to give is preference, and what you reach out to ask for is charity. No one will understand romance, just to see if he is careful, love and perfunctory are two different things.
Indeed, people who love you will cherish every moment they get to spend with you.
He can feel the expectant look in your eyes, and he is willing to build the future you long for bit by bit.
People who don't love you will respond in a perfunctory and casual manner.
It’s not that he doesn’t know you’re tired, it’s not that he can’t see the details, it’s because he doesn’t care.
He doesn’t care what you are thinking, whether you are happy or sad, and he doesn’t care whether the person who reaches the future with him is you.
Rather than living life and the future with him, it would be better to part ways and live happily together.
No matter how good the relationship is, it can't withstand being fooled.
Haruki Murakami once said: "Romance doesn't have to be a bouquet of flowers, it can also be someone who is willing to listen to you talk a lot of nonsense."
The so-called love does not need to be earth-shattering or earth-shattering.
You just need to be more attentive, caring and caring in your daily life.
All love begins with curiosity.
All lack of love begins with neglect.
Therefore, don't let perfunctory, neglect, and muddling along ruin your love.
Don't let compromise and helplessness delay the rest of your life.