Have you ever confided in a buddy, believing that you were getting close, only to find out later that they were telling their stories to someone else? Have you ever had the impression that a buddy you helped when they needed it didn't return the favour?
Have you ever told a buddy the fantastic news about yourself and they didn't seem to share your happiness? Have you ever encountered an instance where someone, ostensibly offering guidance or caution, disparages or ignores excellent news that you have received?
You might have a "enemy disguised as a friend" in your life if any of these situations seem familiar to you. So, who precisely is the enemy? What shapes does it take on? How do we handle the enemies in our lives? Together, let's have a look!
In actuality, the concept of frenzy is self-evident from the word itself. It is possible to describe it as a composite word created by combining the English terms "enemy" and "friend."
Since the words "enemy" and "friend" have opposite meanings, it may seem oxymoronic to combine the two, but this idea relates to a figure that many of us are familiar with: a person who appears friendly but is actually hostile, or someone who acts friendly but is not.
Most of us have been in comparable friendships at some point in our lives, even if it isn't at this particular moment. Though it may seem a little silly to think of an adversary as someone who is claiming to be a friend when we ask, "Why would anyone be hostile towards us?"
But as we see, these individuals don't just show up in our lives during our time in middle or high school; they may also be found in our professional lives or even in our long-term friendship circles.
Having a face-to-face conversation with a friend we suspect of being our adversary can be beneficial to our friendship. It might be best to avoid coming across as accusatory or calling our friend the enemy throughout this chat.
We can help the person we are speaking with let down their guard a little by utilising "I" language and expressing our sentiments as much as possible, even though they might not be open to this type of discourse.
We can start a more constructive conversation when we can tell our buddy that we appreciate them, that we hope to keep our friendship, and that we want to resolve this problem.
Instead of getting into a fight where we point the finger at one another, we might try to address the issue through a conversation in which both of us express our feelings.
And there is still hope for our connection if it appears that both sides are doing their hardest to communicate in this way!
It can be wise to establish limits on our friendship or break it off entirely if, in spite of everything, it reverts to the previous dynamic or starts to negatively impact us in new ways.