Insecurity in relationships

in english •  7 years ago 

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The insecurity in the topic of love relationships, is when we share a space with a person which is partly due to the closeness with your partner, unfortunately the closeness makes you vulnerable and can cause anxiety and insecurity, especially if you are prone to suffer from both in any kind of relationship before adverse situations creating additional complications this means that we see problems where there are none, and that is like the whiting that bites its tail, because the insecurity will be bigger and bigger to the point that the Imagination ends up overflowing the situation completely. As much as it makes us look for signs that things are going bad, we begin to analyze every detail to the most insignificant and tribal, but as you say there if you are looking for something you find it and you will not like it at all.

This can lead us to ruin our relationship for unfounded reasons, makes everything we perceive as reality our imagination distorts it and turn it into negative thoughts about the situation in which we find ourselves. Next I will show you some of the factors in which insecurity affects your love relationship.

1-) Jealousy: you think that your partner deceives you, at first there are no reasons to think about it, but it is enough that only the toxic poison of jealousy is installed in your mind so that you begin to see signs of infidelity of your partner in any gesture that you make.
2-) Mistrust: Logically insecurity plays havoc with the trust of the couple, which is fatal because the value of trust is essential for a relationship to heal and prosper.
3-) Lack of communication: Insecurity and mistrust lead you not to speak clearly to your partner, talk about your feelings, talk about the state of the relationship, you are afraid to say what you should not and you prefer to shut up.
4-) Toxic relationship: Insecurity definitely leads you to live in a toxic relationship and establish emotional dependency links that will endanger your relationship.These factors show you that you may be prone to have a lot of anxiety which leads you to disturb your life and your relationship and even anxiety disorders, you can identify with signs such as: Worrying excessively, sleep disturbances, depression, chronic indigestion and sweating

The behaviors that make us adopt insecurity in our relationship:

  • Feel great need for love and attention from your partner.
    -Find in that person a feeling of completeness.
  • To feel very possessive with your partner.
    -Spy your partner.
  • Feel distrust your partner even then have not done something that melts that distrust.

With these basic examples you should realize that it is very dangerous to feel insecure in the relationship because you would put everything in danger by mental gaps that do not make sense, you put yourself in a situation of paranoia for that person who is with you and believe me if you do not find a solution you will end up devastated (a) and you will realize that you destroyed everything because of jealousy and imagination.

But as I gave you some tips or factors that seriously affect a relationship with insecurity of the parties (Eye is indifferent of which of the two halves insecurity is installed in the same way cause havoc). Well, I also bring some tips that can help you overcome this situation, which is also natural because at the end of the day we are human beings and we tend to corrupt ourselves, but if you help control this is very important.

Things that you should put into exercise if you want to control the insecurity with your loving partner.
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1-) Do not let your imagination separate you from reality: because self-punishment and negative memories can make bad moves and have a bad time. It makes us think that something happened or could happen you can completely deviate from what is really happening in that cycle of thinking about what would happen if it were to repeat itself or if things were of such and such a shape that makes us confused.But many times that insecurity based on what could be comes from anecdotes of people around us that we have witnessed, or worse still from the education we received from childhood about what is supposed to be a relationship, and passes that we focus on generalized ideas based on third-party experience, from a point of view that does not have to be ours.

2-) Your partner is not treated, but your self: There is nothing more wrong than blaming the other half for your insecurity, nobody is responsible for you feeling insecure, apart from your feelings, perceptions and conditioning. If you want to feel safe change your internal conditioning, it is easy to ask your partner to change their behavior so you feel more comfortable, but in the long term it will be fatal to your relationship.

3-) Do not fall into the trap of certainty: Relationships are not exactly as they should be, according to each one. But falling into the trap of the certainty that things should as we think or generalized ideas, this makes us feel insecure when we see that something is missing and is not as we imagine, which makes us lose control because we are not able to filter honestly what we see, letting our imagination wander freely.

4-) Leave your partner room to breathe: the bases of a relationship are put in common and you have no right over the other person to be as you want and share a relationship that has rules imposed unilaterally, with the only order to feel sure of yourself. Confidence and respect is gained little by little just like love, finding a partner with whom you can do well does not mean that things are already done and the cards are lying on the table.

These basic tips for your controls your mind and do not make you fall into excessive insecurity and paranoid anxiety for that person who is by your side.
In conclusion, the insecurity of a couple is an extensive issue here put an advance on what causes that and it is a problem that we all face as human beings, but the next time you feel insecure ask yourself if something has really happened or only you have imagined? If they are only your speculations. You have to be able to distinguish it and filter your life from the reality that you live and perceive correctly.

Here a personal advice about how to attack insecurity rid your mind of all toxic and negative thoughts your mind on those speculations, enjoy your relationship dresses well for your partner, you must always transmit emotion and passion to the relationship analyze your skills and exploit them It will make you gain confidence in yourself which is the key to everything, your partner needs you to transmit security so that everything is fine, please. Place in the routine something new like going to dinner in different places on Fridays or Saturdays at night, read books that are very useful of how to learn new things in bed, give diversity of good and passionate sex, let him know that he has no nothing more than looking elsewhere because you can find everything with you, because remember that nobody goes out to find something that already has.

I hope you liked this post that means the insecurity in love and how it could affect and more than how you can fight against it, a greeting to all and thank you.

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