Hello dear friends, today I want to talk about a perspective that confuses me a little, because talking with a group of friends about our different sentimental relationships, several points of view emerged.
In this talk, one of my friends who is going through a very conflictive situation in their relationship, expressed that she prefers to be with a bad guy already known, to give herself the opportunity to accept a change in her life no matter how much a very good man comes to her. This undoubtedly made me short in my brain, because I feel that people who think this way really have a very low self-esteem, because they prefer to stay with a person who gives you a bad life, when life offers you so many wonderful things, that person limits you to live. We know that when we refer to change, we run the risk that it will not always be for the better, but why would we prefer to stay in a harmful relationship for fear of that change? Really in this saying I feel that prevails that pessimism that does not allow to see what is really important for our stability, with this pessimistic attitude we put in a certain way a brake to future plans, because it is thought that no matter how hard the result always strives it will be the same.
On the other hand another of my friends to hear that comment of "better known bad than good to know", expressed that she prefers to be alone than badly accompanied, which seemed much more reasonable, it is a thousand times better to be alone than in a toxic relationship, I know testimonies of life, where single women have achieved their peace and tranquility just after being alone, this type of women beyond feeling that they live in solitude, they really feel that they live in freedom, freedom to do what they like at the time you prefer, freedom to live without giving explanations and away from ties, simply feel free to be themselves.
There are also those who manage to reach that same happiness in marriage, because not all relationships are bad, there are relationships that go beyond love, couples that manage to achieve a magnificent connection with the couple, placing as a priority respect, communication , trust and above all tolerance, because each person is a world, but when we make the decision to form a home together with another person we must accept it with its defects and virtues, in the same way it must accept and respect yours. It is not said that there are perfect couples because there really are not, there will always be different points of view, whether it be about coexistence, sexuality, communication and many more, everything depends on the way you assume the problem, the healthiest is to be addressed through communication, just when it occurs, because many times we prefer to silence what we feel and we accumulate all those negative feelings, until by a minimum situation, we end up exploding like a volcano.
In conclusion it does not matter in which aspect you feel identified the important thing is that you love yourself and you value yourself as a woman, from small we usually listen, "if you do not you, nobody else will do it", that does not make you selfish before the world, it is simple law of life, who better than you to love and respect you, connect with you, self-evaluate and see how important you are, and from that self-love is that you succeed in projecting and attracting true love to your life.
WOMAN THAT THE BRIGHTNESS OF YOUR OWN ESSENCE IS WHAT PROJECTS BEFORE OTHERS. RESPECT, VALUE BUT ABOVE ALL AMATE.