SATURDAY NIGHT WITH ZIZY EPISODE 5

It's a beautiful Saturday and i'm dancing to my most favorite artist of the moment, "Rick Hasseni". I just learnt about him and I just can't stop listening to his songs as they speak to my soul. Beautiful songs, lovely lyrics! Okay I'm not here to talk about Rick, guess what people, it is Saturday again and it is show time on "Saturday night with Zizy" with your amazing host @zizymena. Last week's outing was amazing and fun-filled. So many people came late to the show but I still tried to catch up with your awesome comments. Thank you guys for all your support and love. I'm drowning in them all.

Last week on Saturday night with Zizy, we talked about "things you should never apologize for". If you missed it, not to worry, click here and read up.

Guess what, last week also we had our first radio talk show on Saturday night with Zizy and it was great. Lots of amazing people attended and I'm sure they can testify to the fact that they had so much love and also there was lots of giveaways. This Saturday night we are gonna be partying again on the radio, how about joining us here

This Introduction is looking lengthy already but it is absolutely necessary. You are all fantabulous. Okay let's get today's show started.

DJ play the music in jenifa's voice, Lol

RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

Some years back I was a victim of the topic we are going to be discussing today. I hurt so bad and it took me three years to actually learn to love again and now that I have found love, I can't believe what I've been missing out on. Nowadays, there are lots of women in dysfunctional relationship who think the only problem is he hasn't proposed. There is just something about being the chosen one even if the guy isn't the right guy and this has got many women clinging to a relationship that is so glaring has no future. When a guy says he can't marry you, you cannot convince him otherwise. You can only beg and persuade him and stick around longer than necessary but to what end? Trying to do all these things with hopes that he would change his mind would only get you hurt.

WHEN HE CANT PICTURE YOU IN HIS FUTURE.

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No woman likes to hear these words
"I love you but...." Or "it's been wonderful being with you all these years but....."

When a guy says these words, it is devastating. This can knock the winds out of any lady listening to it and more often than not, some of us do not know how to feel the hurt and not let the hurt consume us. What do you do when you hear these words?

1. Let him go: I know this is difficult but allow him have his feelings and pursue whatever path he feels is the best for him at that moment. You prolly have invested so much in the relationship but holding on will hurt a lot more especially when you discover he's moved on and left you behind. There is a saying that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. When you love something, let it go, if it is yours it will surely come back to you but then it may be too late and it will be his loss.

2. Don't see him as a terrible person: Yeah he hurt you. He broke your heart after all you did for him, the time, resources, emotions and all. How dare he? He doesn't even deserve you in the first place. You did him a favour dating him. yeah I know all that girlfriend but come to think of it, if you are in his shoes and you can't picture him in your future, won't you do the same? See it that he did you a great favour not leading you on beyond this point.

3. Appreciate him for communicating: most men will just disappear into thin air and start a new relationship, some would even start a new relationship while still with you. He was honest with you. It takes a lot of courage and strength for most men to do what he did because men don't like explaining or having to give reasons for their actions. Remember, if he freaks out about how freaked out you would be when he tells you and bottles up his unhappiness and frustrations, you will also end up unhappy and frustrated.
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4. Do not lose yourself in your hurt: he doesn't want forever with you doesn't mean someone else wouldn't want forever with you. Don't because you went through a blatant rejection feel you worth any less. Stay light, stay lovable, dress good, take care of yourself and open your heart to love. Never wallow in self pity.

5. Do not allow the support from your girlfriends obstruct your chances of dating in the future: as a lady, I know what girlfriends do in situations like this. They hover around you and tell you how all men are the same, how he never deserved you and how he is such a bad person and you should never trust any man. Yeah it's not a bad thing to have your girls console you but do not allow the attention you are getting affirm things in your subconsciousness that will be unproductive.

6. Try not to think about what people would say: yeah, you were prolly the best couple on campus. In church you were the perfect example for yours and now this happened. Lots of questions start messing with your head. "what would people say?", "How do I explain?", "Where do I start from?". These thoughts would only make things harder. Don't let people feel feel you are hurting because that would give room to unsolicited advice. Remember, most people don't really care and only a handful understands what you are going through.

DATING TIPS:

If a person can't cope with you now, marriage won't change that feeling. It is not always to embrace a new relationship but it is not impossible. Open your heart to love and it would find you.

FUN CORNER (Just for Laughs)

If your ex calls and say, "I am killing myself tonight, what would your reply be?

DEAR ZIZY

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I met this girl when I was lost and looking for direction. She helped me and even walked with me and when she was about to leave, we exchanged numbers and started communicating. Some days after I asked her out for a date and she obliged me. We had a nice time and when I saw her off to her house, we kissed but after she told me she has a boyfriend but she really likes me. I was heartbroken and confused and so I decided not to pursue it any further. I stopped calling. It's been days now we've not spoken only for her to call me up this morning and say she misses me. Now I'm confused. What does she mean by she misses me? Does it mean I can shoot my shot again because I still like her. Please advise.

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Good morning Zizy. Good job you are doing here. I have a problem that I will love your followers to help me with. I have loved this girl since 2014 and despite I havent been the best of man and she the best of woman as per we are both imperfect I really wanna marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. I chipped in marriage and she agreed and said it will be an honor to marry me next year and even suggested we do introduction this year. Problem is how do I engage her in a surprising way since she will be going for NYSC by July. I don't fancy the everyday engagement I see online and I want something a bit spectacular. Please help a brother out with nice comments. Thank you.

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Dear Zizy, a friend of mine has a problem. He is a Christian from a Christian background and he has a girlfriend he loves so much. She is also a Christian. They both love each other but the problem is, my friend doesn't want to have sex before marriage but this girl is insisting he has sex with her. This is becoming a serious issue as she has given him an ultimatum of one week to have sex with her or she quits the relationship. Please what should I advise my friend?

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I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain

Yours truly

@zizymena.

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