Coming To Terms With Rejection

Coming to terms with rejection can be a daunting experience for many people. It can be one of the most painful feelings a person can experience. Rejection can be viewed in different ways, for some it is the feeling that they have been rejected and that nothing will happen in their life, while for other people it is a painful lesson learned. In this article I will explore what the feelings are when we come to terms with rejection.

When we feel rejection we will often measure it against others. We will look at our own performances and evaluate what our flaws are and compare them to the perceived performances of others. Often this leads to stress and anxiety about our own shortcomings and it may manifest itself in behaviour such as perfectionism. A common cause for these feelings of rejection are feelings of inferiority.

For someone who feels deeply about their self-worth, rejection can be distressing. Rejection can be seen as a reflection of ourselves as humans and as people. We get used to comparing ourselves to others and it can lead to stress, which can then manifest itself as anxiety. If you find yourself always looking for reassurance that you don't measure up and that others are out to get you, that may be a major component of your rejection anxiety. Recognising that you do not have to prove yourself to anyone and accepting this aspect of yourself will bring great relief.

Most importantly, if you have been rejected before then you will know how upsetting it can be. When you accept that you have been rejected in the past then you can focus on the positive aspects of your career and life instead of the negative. Rejection teaches us important lessons, such as not trusting our instinct or that we should always be careful where we put our feet. These lessons are invaluable and help us make better decisions in the future.

There are many books and courses available that can help you deal with the emotional side of rejection. However, it is important that you do not become overwhelmed by too much information. Only if you can manage to release your emotions from your chest, can you begin to truly understand what is happening to you. You will also be better placed to identify why you have been rejected and, as a result, to learn from your mistakes.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by rejection at work or in your personal life, then it would probably be a good idea to talk about it. Tell your boss or someone else in your organisation who is close to you that you are having a hard time coping with rejection. This may trigger an honest conversation about what is happening in your life and your work. As a result, you may start to feel less stressed out and this can also have a positive effect on your performance at work. Once you start to feel less anxious about your situation, you are more likely to be open to learning from your experiences and to come up with solutions to your problems.