It hurts emotionally when your hopes and expectations about someone or something don't come true. This is called disappointment.
It hurts the most when close people or relationships with them let you down. Is it possible to stay away from this bad thing that happens in life? What if not? Then how can you go through this process while taking the most care of yourself?
Some information about where this process comes from and why it's a part of our lives.
Disappointment is always a high, an emotional hangover from being so drunk on lies. Don't feel bad about being let down; you were fooled before, and now you're paying for it.
This makes it clear that the processes of being disappointed and being fascinated are closely linked. The second one is the process of giving something ideal qualities.
Being disappointed seems to come from the way we behaved when we were kids, when everything was easy to understand and plan for. It looks like we miss the clear, safe world of youth.
And our minds want to get back to this state of ease and security, which makes us feel good: comfort, joy, and pleasure. However, a promise is always a lie.
And an adult has the strength to know this and accept it. There is no one or thing in this world that is certain. No matter how much pain this causes us, everything flows and changes.
There are things in the world that are outside of our power, like other people and events, that don't have to be right for us.
On the other hand, we need to be honest and not hold any fantasies about what is going on, and this is something that depends on us.
The point is that we can't change things in the outside world, but we can change what's going on inside our heads.
Being disappointed makes us humble in the face of outside events, puts us in our place, and frees us from the "God complex." This helps us see the world for what it really is, and it helps us understand our place in it. From there, we can act without illusions, taking into account our real limitations and dignity.
Being let down teaches us to pay close attention to the people, events, and relationships in our lives. Makes us watch out for what we have from now on so we don't get hurt again;
If the process is going in the right direction, disappointment can help the relationship move on to a new level, using the problem as a chance.