Some thoughts on children and the growing hate towards children in the West

There is not secret that I am a fan of Capitalism, Free markets, Objectivism, Rationality and Ayn Rand. Even though Ayn Rand was brilliant in my opinion, and I absolutely love her books (Atlas Shrugged and Fountainhead are two of my favorite books. The way they explains how the world works -and she's right!) more modern people like Jordan Peterson and @stefan.molyneux are doing a hell of a good job to expand peoples minds.

The hate against children is something I've noticed on several levels. In Norway, the child care welfare system - a government institution were implemented in 1992. And their intentions were probably good. Children need protection. But in many ways this protection has gone too far. So far in fact, that perfectly normal, healthy people have anxiety of not only having children, but constant anxiety of their children being taken away from them. The stories are many, and although some of the conspiracy theories may be exagerated a little, theres is certainly something very rotten in Norway..

But you notice it on so many other levels. Kids have become mere ascessories. It seems to me like people dont even think about WHY they want kids. All they seem to talk about is how agonizing it is to have children. Statements such as "I want my breasts back!" and "I want the kid our of our room, so that we can fuck again" and "there is no shame in not breastfeeding" just shows how selfish people are.

When you ask someone why they want to sleep next to their spouse - it's because it feels safe and "right". It feels natural to want to sleep next to the person you love. Well...do you love your child? Do you think your child loves and needs you?

How do you think your one year old child feels when you lock it into a dark room, alone in a world it doesn't have any capacity of understanding? And when it cries desperately for help - you ignore it, because you have decided the child now is on a "screaming detox" Let it scream until it gives up and literally dies - mentally. Yeah! Now, you've thought your child that you won't be there for it. Awesome.

Science has shown that doing this dramatically increases the levels of cortisol in the body, and this inhibits brain growth and cognitive capacity. In other words - your childs IQ. Not only that, but you've successfully managed to increase your child's risk of getting anxiety and depression as it grows older. Well done - marxist.

Personally, my wife let our kid breastfeed until HE decided it was enough. I have to admit I more than once told her that "so you want a 12 year old hanging from your breast?" and my wife responded that he will quit when he's ready. And at 2,5 years old - he quit. Like that.

Same with going to bed. We've been in bed with him until he's fallen asleep for 4 years. But recently we talked about it with HIM, helping him understand that we needed some time together, we had work to do, and all the positive things it implied for him to get himself to sleep. It took literally one day with some crying, getting up etc..and that's it. Now he puts himself to sleep.

We still sleep in the same bed all of us. Frankly, it's great. We have an entire house for ourself if we want to..talk to each other. At some point it will be natural for him to sleep alone. Sure, I'm not arguing against being independent and growing up. Sure. But first of all, now I calmly trust my wife's gut feeling. And I see how great it has worked out on all the other things. Things happen naturally when they are meant to happen if you don't stress.

And he's really turning out to be a very very positive, open hearted kid with high self esteem and high assertiveness. He's 4, and he picks off the table. He helps out mowing snow. He NEVER cries when we go shopping, in fact he helps out. He never begs for candy, and he's almost always positive. And, even more importantly - he knows how to express his feelings.

Now, I see so many horrible examples of children just having a bad start to life. Unfortunately we have to have him in kindergarden. We chose to move to a small place so that he didnt have to go in a large kindergarden. But it's not optimal. Not having your kid in kindergarden is impossible, because there are no stay at home moms who offer services regarding child care. Stay at home moms in Norway send their kid to kindergarden for 9 hours while they themselves go shopping or watch daytime TV.

So we try to deliver him late and pick him up early. Fortunately he likes kindergarden better now. He has a lot of friends and is a popular kid. And we live literally 100 feet from the kindergarden. I'm looking at what I think is him right now actually..I can see their playground from my office window.

This is of course not optimal for ME - picking him up early (I'm the stay at home dad) but we were hellbent on prioritizing him as much as possible. And he's also great at playing by himself while I work..so no problemo.

But I see these other kids, being dropped off at 06:30 in the morning, and then picked up almost 10 hours later! They have longer hours then their frigging parents do. Imagine being in that chaos, the screaming, the non-structured place for 10 hours. And when the parents pick up their kids they are in a hurry to drag them home, often screaming og crying (from exhaustion) to eat dinner. Then it's off to bed.

The result? Well..there are NO tree houses, no gangs of 10 year olds cruising around doing nothing. No creativity, no bruises. They are all inside with their pads or phones playing.

And so are the parents. Grown adults playing stupid ass games, or posting shit on Insta and that other shit social media I don't even remember the name of.

There is literally 1 meter of snow outside. Are ANYONE out playing with their kids? No. Are their kids outside playing? No. Where the FUCK are they?

Conclusion

Kids today are losing on both fronts. In the past, sure enough, children didn't have much rights. They weren't heard. But at least we hung out with our friends all afternoon. Sure, we played computer games (I'm not that old) I grew up with Commmodore and Nintendo and PC. But we did it all. We programmed, we played, we went outside. We set things on fire, we shot grandmas car with an air rifle. We accidentally killed a bird and had to take it's life. We threw snowballs at the police car and ran 10km into the woods with them after us. We learned a lot of life lessons.

The thing is, in the past - even though most parents sucked then too, at least children got some life lessons early. We learned to figure shit out. We interacted with others without parents being around. Not everything was organized. We got creative.

Now, everything is organized. Schools decide how many kids your child must invite to their birthday party. Even "freeplay" is organized. No kids hang out. They are constantly under their parents supervision. I recently read that some schools are even "banning" kids from having best friends - because it's discrimination.

It's insanity right? This pussy ass approach to everything. Everything is discrimination. YES! Discrimination is good! I discriminate because I have preferences. We all do. But to pretend that we ignore that and just lead our entire life as relativists is I can assure you, not healthy.

My theory is that this all fits in line perfectly with altruism and relativism (aka marxism) People are being told so much wrong and so much weirdness, and self hate that they end up hating themselves (and their children) and becoming walking contradictions. For instance - people will treat their children like shit, while at the same time sucking up to any other adult person. Totally unnatural. You're supposed to protect your child and be sceptic to other adults. Not the other way around.

People are confused, they don't know right from wrong anymore. They have no moral compass, no values, no structure in their life. No goals. All this ends up in massive nihilisism and passivity. People read on forums what they should do instead of figuring things out based on facts. People are more conserned about what other people will say than doing whats good for their child. The social shaming and social structures become so important to people that they rather hurt and inhibit their own child than to do different than most people - in fear of social sanctions.