Getting a perfect partner is almost impossible these days. As a matter of fact, no one actually is perfect. So getting a partner that is not growth centric is a flaw any partner could have. Love is definitely all that matters. The ability to also Co-exist and live peacefully is also very essential but whenever it's not working, I'm of the opinion that you can just take a walk. No one or nothing is worth replacing your happiness. When A person is unhappy, he or she is even likely to die younger than a smoker. Choose your happiness over everything.